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writes: Hi really hope someone can help me I've been with my boyfriend for 17 month now he has just recently moved in about 2 weeks ago opposite us lives a blonde woman with her boyfriend and kids my boyfriend is always staring over at there house in case he sees her he was talking to her the other day and I was going out shopping I went over to say bye to him before I went and he completely blanked me like I wasn't there and if he looks over he looks out the corner of his eye at me to see if I've noticed I feel useless and that I'm not good enough for him how do I approach this with him without sounding like a jealous girlfriend I am not like this normally I thought he was happy but when I see the way he stares at this woman I feel like he would rather be with her than me sorry for the rant thank you
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reader, Justneed2know +, writes (3 August 2015):
I think you should talk to him first, and tell him how u feel. If he really loves u he will stop doing the things he's doing to make u feel like this. If he doesn't then he probably doesn't value your relationship and love. I hope everything works out for u.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 August 2015):
Do you want to be that convenient "fallback"? ... the girl he hangs with because this hottie already has her boyfriend???
OR, do you want to be "number one" in your "b/F's" life???
Ask HIM,.... because he - and ONLY HE - has the answer.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015): I know how you feel my husband does the same thing except for he's really obsessed, it's now a hobby for him knowing her time schedule, when she walks, when she pulls in, probably where she goes who knows.shes about 10 pounds skinnier than me and I know I'm prettier, just fatter. It's a hard thing to live with because it squashes ones self esteem bad. I'm ready to leave my husband because of it. It's hard but you gotta draw the line somewhere. Of course I get nothing out of the deal,and he will still have it all. I guess surround yourself with people who make you feel like the way he makes her feel. Prettier. Kinda sucks he make you feel bad but boosts her self esteem
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2015): Maybe just mention it to him to start with to see how that goes first. Has he ever been like that before with anyone else? Does she stare back?I'm always willing to hear people out before jumping to conclusions, maybe too willing at times! I've not long broken up with a guy who was a total flirt with numerous older woman. He would stare at them, give them certain looks, chat online suggestively with them, he had online profiles which were based around women (cougar types) and sex. I gave him posada of chances. Then he would apologise, delete them and now I've found an instagram account of his based on the same cheap rubbish, which I've not even mentioned (needless to say I am done with this guy). Some people are just the way they are. But this bad experience has left me with a bitter taste in my mouth whenever I hear stories about men eyeing up other women while in a relationship. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect like that. It's plain bad manners. I'm not saying your boyfriend is quite like that, but I would definitely talk to him about it first before things get out of hand.
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