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writes:ok so my boyfriend texts alot to his friends, at first it didnt bother me because hes intitled to text whoever he wants, well he rectently got back from a trip and after the trip hes been very protective of his phone, and i notice hes always texting girls now. one of them, he previously met through a concert by one of his friends, the other he met on his trip with his friend. and it didnt bother me too much, because i always thought he was faithful. but lately me and him never talk on the phone, and when im with him hes always texting, so we hung out one time and he was sleeping so i decided to see what was up with him and see his phone well his phone log says he talks to those girls more than he talks to me, and he had one text from the girl he previously knew say "kk babe, well get some sleep i dont know why your up so late, but try and get some rest, k i love you and thank you for everything babe."what do I do now?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 What a Dirty Rat!!! Hun, he is definately got someone else, otherwise why would he be so secretive. I agree with ilikesox, confront him and then dump this dumbass.
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reader, Infidel7 +, writes (2 August 2008):
If he's not cheating he's thinking about it, but I beleive he's cheating. If you don't beleive it you should just ask him. If he get defensive like your accusing him then he's cheating. If he simply says no, I would never do that..........then asks you what would make you think thatHe's covering. Don't do it over the phone do it face to face. Most people indirectly tell on themselves when they lie. Whether it's a smirk, laugh, looking away or into the sky, eyes cut quickly to the left, or any unusual expression with the eyes. It's a sign. Look for facial expressions that you've never see him make. It's up to you if you want him to know that you went through his phone. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with that. I beleive in trust, but persoal validation. If you decide to tell him don't let him flip the strip on you. He might ask why r u going through my phone....what you don't trust me.This is also a sign of cheating. Also if you tell him you looked through his phone and for whatever reason you guys stay together even he is cheating, it won't be as easy to get a hold of his phone next time. Oh yeah if his phone is always on vibrate.....He's definately cheating. Good Luck!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): well i think if anyone is being on the devencive with there phone then they obviously have got something to hide, why else would they do it for.
you say that he is sendind the other girls more messages than you and that he is being distant, smells like trouble to me.
i think he might be upto no good to behauving this way with you.
how would he feel if you did this to him.
i think you should tell him that it's upsetting you and makeing you feel like the other girls are more important than you, try talking to him in a slow soft voice because men respond to this better than someone screaming and shouting.
if he is betraying you then at least you know that you know longer need to swpend anymore of your preciouse time on someone who dosen't care for you as much as they should.
good luck, and i hope that he realises what he has got and that is you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): Just confront him about it; ask him what's up. Just keep it cool and calm, it could be nothing so don't freak out straight away. Talking always helps.
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reader, xxxamandaxxx +, writes (2 August 2008):
confront him about it and if he is cheating get rid of him because hes not worth it x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): Why does everyone feel the need to look at someone's phone
to find out if they're doing anything?!You've already found
the texts,so you might as well go ahead and talk to him about it.Tell him everything that you think is wrong or can
be improved in the relationship.Now's a better time than ever.
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reader, ilikesox +, writes (2 August 2008):
Confront him.
Then dump his ass.
:)
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reader, leslie1 +, writes (2 August 2008):
 i would be pretty mad to but if you have doubts you should deff. talk to him thats the only way to get through problems and if he argues with you since you looked in his phone you should tell him why you decided to look its not fair that he talks to another girl more than he does with you best advice to do is talk with him
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