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anonymous
writes:Hi. I'm in an open relationship with my boyfriend - but instead of seeing other people on our own, we usually just invite people in for threesomes. We've had many successful threesomes, and although I was monogamous before this relationship - I've dealt with the jealousy quite well. We always discuss everything afterward, and there are never any problems. He knows that I'm okay with him sleeping with other women in these circumstances.But here's something new. Before me, he was dating this girl L. L is beautiful, outdoorsy, quiet, nerdy, shy. She's the opposite of me in a lot of ways. I'm outgoing, loud, boisterous, more aggressive, but still submissive. Anyway, when we started dating - he stopped seeing L. L isn't bisexual, as far as I know, so there has never been any question of the three of us having a threesome.We invited her over the other night just to hang out and play games. I ended up tipsy (they were still sober) and we all went downstairs to cuddle. My boyfriend X was in the middle. I ended up falling asleep.I woke up in the middle of the night to L still being in our bed (it had been my assumption that she was going to go home and not spend the night) and both her and X are naked. It is pitch black in the room, so neither of them know that I have woken up. They start kissing, then X gets on top of her and starts having sex with her. They're both very quiet about it, and although he and I usually have loud rough sex - his sex with her is gentle and slow, and yet he comes really hard. I can see his whole body spasm into her after just five minutes or so. I'm terribly jealous. I assume that he will tell me all about it in the morning or the next day, but he says nothing. I wait for him to tell me - he usually LOVES discussing our encounters in detail, making me listen as he describes what it was like being with another woman, but he doesn't mention this. Now it's almost four days later, and he still hasn't said anything to me about having sex with her. I'm worried about this, 'cause he's never lied to me before and I don't understand WHY he's lying to me now. I feel strange that he's enjoyed having sex with his ex so much, but if he'd just told me about it - it wouldn't be an issue. But now it is!What should I do? Should I confront him and admit that I've known all along because I was awake? Or should I just pretend like it never happened and let it go? I feel like I'm going insane and maybe I just dreamed the whole thing. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Hi. I'm in an open relationship with my boyfriend 'To be honest I'm confused why you even are asking this, if you're in an open relationship, then why the fuss, he can do what he likes and so can you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): You need to have a serious conversation with your man, but don't play games... don't set him up, don't make him squirm. Tell him what you saw and how it made you feel.
Have an adult conversation and set some new rules for how you play.
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