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36-40,
*ngelis
writes:Hi, I've been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. When we first started dating, everything felt magical. Now, we live together for about a year and a half. In the beginning, we used to have a lot of sex. However, he started watching porn on the net and even became a member at a web site. When I found out about this, I was really hurt and depressed. My mom told me that all men watch porn and this is 'normal'. However, I can't accept this and told my boyfriend that I was upset. This seems to have little effect on him and he continues to look at it. I'm always asking for sex, but he refuses and just masturbates. This simple fact makes me feel unattractive and down and when we do have sex, he just does it to me without kissing, without cuddling, without any foreplay. Once he gets off, it's done. I'm really hurting and frustrated.What can I do? Should I end this and move on? (Mod note: knowing your English is your second language, I have retyped your entire message and question.)
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reader, chika +, writes (31 March 2009):
OMG!!!!!! same thing happend to me, he makes me feel down too and its not good. sometimes I wanna brake up with my boyfriend too and move out of the house but, it's just too hard. I know exacly wat you are going threw
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Hi, I can kind of relate to your situation. I've been living with my boyfriend for just a few months now and since we've moved in he hasn't really been to interested in our sex life. A week or two ago I found his porn, and then just a few days ago I caught him masterbating in the bathroom, when I was ready and willing in the other room. We had a serious talk about it and he told me that I have to understand it's a guy thing and it has nothing to do with me or our realtionship. Since then (unlike your situation it sounds like) he has been putting forward more of an effort to please me and he understands how much it hurt me when I realized what was going on.
The moral of the story here is that he should understand and respect your feelings about ANYTHING. Intimacy is a very big part of a relationship and if you have expressed your feelings about all of it and he still continues to act this way, the problem is probably way bigger than just in the bedroom. You deserve better.
Hope this helps - good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 March 2009):
You need to leave this guy. He no longer cares about you at all. He shows no respect and clearly does not love you.
Move back with your mother and find a man who cares about you.
Good Luck!! xx
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