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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are apart right now but will be back together at college in about a month (we're 4 hours apart now). He randomly basically freaked out because we're apart he said he basically feels single but cannot pursue other women. I let him say his feelings and now he seems fine, talking about how much he loves me. He said it's scary because he's never been in a relationship this serious. He also admitted part of him considered dumping me in order to get with many women. He said he's afraid that years down the road we will break up and he will have missed out on being wild in his college years. I'm still fun and I'm not pushing him so I'm not really sure why he was worried when I never brought up these topics. He said he wasn't sure what I wanted for the future and is now back to being excited about the prospect of getting an apartment with me once we are back at college. He always jokes that if he's not careful he'll wind up married with kids (He wouldnt want kids, but once again I'm not the one who brings it up). He says he wants to be with me and is happy with me but his fears worry me. The last thing I want to do is trap him, I just wish I could assure him I'll still be fun and just have him enjoy being with me now. We love each other but it's hard being away so I hope that part of the commitment issue is just that we both are almost feeling single because of the distance. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe also has been hesitant to open up to me. He still hasn't told me everything about his past. He told me he had been with many girls but then told me he had made that up and had dated 10 and slept with 4. I only know who 2 of the girls were and he said he's still getting used to sharing things with me and I'll learn as we go. I worry about why he won't tell me things even though he tells me everything happening now.
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