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*aralynn137
writes:I think I have some serious trust issues.My boyfriend and I have only been together for a month and a half, but we were very very close friends before that. I'm concerned if he is genuine or not. All the signs that he means what he says are there- he looks me in the eye when he tells me how he feels, he isn't shy about telling anyone how he feels about me, he always wants me to communicate when we have a problem, he cries when he hurts me, etc. He's a very family-oriented guy and he isn't involved in anything weird or bad. He's very respectful and we share the same faith.However, he has messed up with me before. He has lied (about very trivial things, but then again, so have I) and we've both been hurt by one another a few times, although it is always an accident. He makes a lot of promises, beautiful, amazingly wonderful promises, and I'm wondering if he can keep them (though so far he has). We are very young and the guys I've known so far have usually been fake.I find myself still having a difficult time trusting him. I can't be sure whether it's my past working against me, insecurities, or a gut feeling that I should listen to. I think I may be afraid to listen to it, if it is.Point being, it seems wayyy too good to be true. All my friends claim, "guys are jerks, don't trust them!" Even my own father was a huge jerk. All the men I know are, besides my boyfriend (hopefully).Is this persisting feeling of "too good to be true" a gut feeling that I should listen to, or am I just being paranoid?
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reader, maralynn137 +, writes (14 July 2008):
maralynn137 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTrue, that is a good point...I didn't start worrying until we got together, but there were never any red flags when we were just friends. I guess I'm just being paranoid.
Thanks for the very helpful answer! =]
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reader, maralynn137 +, writes (14 July 2008):
maralynn137 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm his first serious girlfriend...
He did like another girl a lot before me. She was totally cruel to him and completely turned on him as a friend. They really dislike one another now...so I have no idea what he's like with other girls. =/
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reader, maralynn137 +, writes (14 July 2008):
maralynn137 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTrue, I suppose as long as we're both trying everything is all right...
Thanks for the help =]
Of course there's a lot more to the situation than I could possibly explain online, but, that's the gist of it. So, thank you, you have reassured me =]]]
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