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writes: I live with my boyfriend and his parents. we've been together for two and a half years now. Yesterday he went for a massage and I jokingly said 'make sure they don't give any ''special'' treatment!' meaning sexual favours as I've heard some massage therapists do that, he laughed and said no of course not and reported back to me that the massage was fine and there was 'no monkey business' and we both laughed. Then today he went for another massage and has just told me that the masseuse mastubated him until ejaculation! I am beyond confused and have no idea how to react, it's not cheating technically but it's another lady touching my boyfriend's private parts! I don't know what to do, what to say or how i should react, how serious is this? He said he feels absolutely disgusting, dirty and so ashamed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): It wasnt a massage shop he went to, it was a knocking shop.
And the masturbation is usually just the warm up for full sex...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): has he got no legs to walk away? could he not have said stop? no he stayed and let her do it till he came! why? because he liked it.
not a keeper is he.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 A masseuse is under a code not to "harrass" clients, no matter how much a man could enjoy it. She could get fired from it, especially she did not ask for permission first. Some massage parlors have rooms which have intercom, and are recorded so the boss could know what's going on. The fact that your boyfriend didn't stop her does not add up. If he really felt disgusting, dirty, and ashamed he should have stopped her. I would learn massage myself. Committed couples should just stay with themselves. I think that this is actually very common, so don't go there anymore unless you are single. Depends on you, we can't tell you what to feel. Don't force yourself to feel anything. You should worry more about what your boyfriend is feeling. I guess he is still young, shy, and confused about this. He might have drawbacks about sex in the future but it's partly his fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): Let it go and move on. The masseuse rubbed him all over his body to give him pleasure. If he enjoyed the back rub the strange woman was giving him, then why is it so wrong for him to have enjoyed the front rub? Is it because it was more intense? Where do you draw the line? Exactly which body parts do you feel you own and are exclusively yours? His lips? Can he kiss a relative? His hands? what if he uses his own hand on his penis?What if the back rub was so amazing that it brought on an orgasm? I'm not saying it is possible, but what if?? Would you begrudge him that experience?He is obviously not taking this any further with the masseuse, like dating her or anything, so let it be.
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reader, SillyA  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 My advice, get out of there running! He knew it was wrong the first time and he went back for a second round. And yes, it is cheating.
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