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writes:Dear CupidMy bf of 2 years often says that i should live and be happy for today and not think about future, since future is always uncertain.He hasnt proposed and he never talks about our future together and when ever i talk about our future together he says the above words and changes the conv topic.Please help me, is he saying that he is not going to commit to me at all. I dont feel very much secured in this relationship right now. Please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): "My boyfriend says live for today, I want to plan for tomorrow."
You have irreconcilable philosophical differences. He's not going to magically "change" into a person other than whom he is to please you any more than you are going to magically "change" into a person other than who you are to please him.
That's your reality. Your choices: Acceptance or denial.
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reader, Relationship.Chef +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Please, understand, that this is as close to a divine sign as it is ever gonna get.
You see, men only focus on what's in front of them, while women try to see the bigger picture. Little do both realize that the two are not mutually exclusive.
You want to know whether you'll be together in the future ? Ha ! Just ask him.
You'll get one of three responses. "yes", "no", and, "I don't know". While the first two are self-explanatory, the latter simply means "I don't know yet. Ask me a little later ". It certainly doesn't mean a "no".
Give it a little time, and,ask again.
See? It's simpler than you think! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): I'll give you some advice a very dear friend once gave me
"Don't plan for the future coz it could all end tomorrow so do what you want today. get pished,have sex & laugh. Theres nothing more to it"
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