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writes:Here's my story, I have a 3 year old daughter and I'm 6 months pregnant with my second child. Lately my boyfriend(the father of my children) has been having health problems, and he is having self pity. He told me that if I'm tired of him, I could just give up on him (this hurt me badly). But I can't give up on him, not with two kids to take care of, and I love him so much. I just don't feel that he loves me the way that I love him. My question is what should I do? I'm emotionally distressed by what he is telling me.. Reply to this Question
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reader, llifton  +, writes (21 March 2013):
 sounds to me like he's just feeling down on himself and feels like a burden to you. he doesn't want to have to keep causing you so much stress on his behalf. i guess this was his way of trying to let you know that you aren't stuck with him. this is his way of being selfless.
anyway, i would try not to let this hurt you. i don't think it means he loves you any less.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2013):
 As the more disabled partner in my marriage, I get your boyfriend's feelings... you don't as an adult want to be a burden on your partner.
IF the only reason you stay is because of the kids, that's not a good reason..
if his illness is something like depression, he needs to get it treated as that can color how he feels about himself and the relationship making it harder to make it work.
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