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writes:I have only been to my boyfriend house for 4 times all only for a while. But yesterday I got to know from my boyfriend that his mother don't really like me. What should I do I did not even do anything wrong to offend her? We have been together for 10months. I feel very sad and I cried and my boyfriend was sad too because he doesn;t knows what to do.He said I always make him sad............What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHis father gave us his blessings but only his mother like quite picky. He told me that his mother is someone who is difficult to please. Especially to people she is not familiar with she won't really talk to them but he said that his dad thinks that I am a good girl which he can keep as his wife next time. He told me not to worry too much and when I ask him what will he do if his mother don't like me?
He said that that won't happen because his dad supported him and he said that we are old enough to choose our partners and he said he believed his family will respect us.
Oh and the reason for his mother to not take a liking on me is just nothing in particular he said that his mother is hard to please especially towards people she just get to know.
So I told him I will visit his home more often during Sundays and Saturday he can come to my place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): well, you could talk to your boyfriend and ask him to find out why his mother doesn't like you.
you should be happy around your boyfriend and make him laugh as much as you can that way he might not be sad about it anymore :)
good luck:)
-Baily.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): he is trying to make you feel worse to make him feel better abusive relationship if i have ever seen one
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reader, Agony Aunt Annabel  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Hi Hun, I know what you mean; I've had emails like this countless times. I'd advise you to go round more times and be careful what you say, but be yourself. Many mothers are protective of their sons and want to make sure a girl is right for him, therefore they may seem hostile. Mothers don't always realise that their sons, in this case, are old enough to pick their own girlfriends.
Try not to look too clingy to your boyfriend, especially around her, because it may infuriate her that you are the 'other woman' in their relationship.
Think about it from her side, she's raised this boy and she's been his favourite woman (as his mother) since birth, so your presence (nothing personal) could feel intrusive, like you are taking her son from her.
A good idea might be to go to a cafe, just you and her, and try and find something you have in common besides her son - your boyfriend.
Also, another idea would be to watch "Monster-in-law" with Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda because it shows a relationship triangle like yours.
Good Luck:)x
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (19 December 2010):
 did he say why his mother doesn't like you? Maybe you should find that out then see what you can do from there. Good luck
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