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writes:I have a boyfriend that appears to be curious to date other women... I'm his first girlfriend, we've been dating for 3 years. He was 25 years old when we first started dating..He's been very critical of me lately, says that I'm difficult and wants a lot of space. I don't know how to react to this b/c he say's he loves me and says we are not right for each other. I have met his family and he has met mine. I was under the impression that we would get married soon because of all the time we spend together, he says we would get married someday. He also said he has not experienced other women, he would like to see how it would be.. But yet he still plans things with me and see each other everyday. Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Seems to me he is trying to break loose. He started late but now that he found out about girls he wants to see more of them.
Take the hint, this guy ain't ready to commit. He surely must know that dating other women in a committed relationship is a no-no and yet he asks for it. Either he is a social retard or he is just using you as a safety net. The first girl to date him after all, he might want to date others but might never find them. So he can always come back to you.
Sounds charming.
Do you want to be a safety net?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Let's see... he picks on you, says you're not right for each other and wants to date other women.
Yeah, I'd definitely say you're not getting married any time soon. It sounds like he is feeling his oats and getting ready to break up with you, or more likely making you miserable until you break up with him. Set him free to sow his oats and don't settle for anyone who isn't committed to you.
Good luck.
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reader, superali752  +, writes (26 July 2009):
at least he's being honest with you and not cheating on you. its totally up to u if u wanna let him date other women thats fine.. he says he loves u and will marry soon. i think he's being honest. i was in the same situation and my gf allowed me to date other women. nothing went wrong, i still love her and only her.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Let him know he can't have his cake and eat it too. If he wants to throw away your relationship and date other women, let him. But don't sit there and let him soil your relationship because he's curious about other women. If he wants to be with them, let him be. You can easily find a new man. Let him know he cant't come running back if he leaves.
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