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writes:So lastnight my boyfriend of two years said he has no more tollerance for me anymore. I asked him why he's been such a jerk (and he'snot lavable like he use to be). He's kinnda in a i dont give a f**** mood with me lately and i dont understand why? Im a good girlfriend to him, and im very loyal. We are in love but when he says this to me i queshtion if he really is in love with me anymore? He only seems to act that way when he's annoyed with me or were fighting, he gets so annoyed so eaily now for no reason whats so ever. When we use to fight he use to wanna work things out and apoligize for anything hurtful he had said to me. lately he hasnt been doing that he just ignores me all night or something of that matter. I think it might be beacuse i broke up with him about two weeks ago out of anger and it really cought him off guard and made him upset ( but please do understand i was very upset alsoo and didnt just break up with him for no reason) The next day i called and i was crying and i said soory and he said i hurt him and his feeling has changed for me and he doesnt really trust me 100% anymore. but within a few days we got back together and everything felt normal and he said i thought my feelings changed for you but they didnt. But now two ina half weeks later hes kinnda a diffrent person towards me? hes not lovie dovie like he use to be, he doesnt text me or call me first like he use to, i have to text or call him fisrt. and it upsets me. i need to know what " i have no more tollerance towards you anymore" means? please someone explain cuz him acting this way towards me is really hurtful and i dont know how to act upon it or he really just doesnt wanna be with me abymore? :( please helpp all comments will be appriated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): Wow this eaxctly the same thing iwent thru wit my man of 2 yrs. i broke up with him cuz ithought that is wat he wanted during an argument but we are back together and we still have our arguments and everytime it gets really heated he'll say it was so easy for u to leave b4 when u thought uknew wat i wanted why dnt u just leave now or wats stoppin u. so i kno when idid that ireally hurt him and iregret it and i am sincerly sorry for doing so. tho when we broke up we acted as if we were still together he called me i called him text and all that cuz we couldnt deny we love each other but he didnt wanna take me back so fast cuz he said if we ever broke up this would b his last realationship and to see its not that easy and i shouldnt act on what i think he want. but he did and i will never jus drop him again like that cuz ilove him iknew this b4 but that whole thing made me realize more so. ilovemyboyfriend and tho we fuss and argue i would not wanna do that with anyone else but him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Hey anonymous here again.
He definitely was affected by the break up. A lot. The damage has been done and things between you two are either going to 1) come to an end, or 2) take a fair amount of time for the wound to heal. Learning to trust someone again can be extremely difficult, and often times...impossible. If you really indeed want to save this relationship, give him his space and time so that he can learn to trust and forgive you eventually. It may take weeks, years, whatever, but that's reality. If you're unwilling to wait, then just move on. There's no reason to hang on to something you can't wait for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): (Person you is owner of this queshtion)hi anonymous,its me. that makes since of what your saying but i did talk to him about it just the other day before i came on here and he said he doesnt believe that im sorry, and that it was to easy for me to hurt him. but what upsets me the most is that he was fine for two weeks and then just outta no were he brings that up? and we had sex a few days after the whole breakup, and i noticed it wasnt the same. he wouldnt look at me like he use to, maybe cuz i hurt him just a few days before. idk i really feel like he isnt in love with me anymore? and when he wanted time to think i said for how long? and he sayed proubley a while and i was like you either want me or you dont and he says he wants me but then he acts like that? i dont understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): This sounds pretty close to what happened to me with my last relationship. Like you, I also broke up with him out of anger. Granted it was about something he did wrong, but at the same time, I broke it off without talking it out with him hoping that he would read my mind about what was wrong. It obviously caught him off guard and he was extremely hurt from the whole ordeal (as was I). Nevertheless, we got back together a week after, but our relationship lasted only for another month. In the end, he was apparently so deeply affected by the last break up that things just weren't the same for him anymore. We both thought it could work out after we got back together, but he probably never was able to get over that incident. So even though I am much happier after I got out of that relationship, I learned something very important: Don't break up with someone unless you mean it. Breakups are not to be taken lightly. It shouldn't be something you blurt out when you're fighting with your partner if you don't actually want to end things. Things are rarely the same afterwards. This is likely what happened in your relationship too. I wouldn't be surprised if he decides to give up on the relationship later on since you've already given up on the relationship before when you broke up with him over an argument. I would suggest that you have a talk with him right away about that recent breakup. You need to win his trust back and somehow get him to believe that you realize you were wrong to ever put the relationship on the line and would never do it again out of frustration and anger UNLESS you mean it.
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