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36-40,
*annii
writes:I really love my boyfriend but he puts alcohol before everything else. I get treat differently infront of his friends but I can't live without him, I get so hurt and I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): hi, my boyfriends exacly the same.he just dosnt get why it upsets me? he moans at me when i talk 2 him about it to,he just thinks im being mardy? i just make him feel bad about it, do the same back and see if he moans or gets upset and if he does explain thats how you feel when he does it and if he doesnt get upset and it dosnt bother him then maybe you deserve better?
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reader, red1982 +, writes (17 January 2008):
I think a lot of guys put alcohol and friends in front of their partner - usually because we put up with it and allow them to.
Sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling - a lot of men aren't very sensitive and it takes you to shove things in his face rather then little hints before they get it.
Tell him that you understand that he needs time with his friends but arrange times when you will be together without his friends or alcohol - and make sure that he sticks to them.
I would assume that he is trying to show off to his friends by treating you badly in front of them (a lot of young men do this) remember when you were at school and the boy that fancied you was the one that pulled your hair and tripped you over. I have no idea why they do this but explain that it is not acceptable and that it really hurts your feelings. If he still does it next time pick up your handbag and leave without saying a word, that way he will look stupid.
If he still doesn't get it you may have to think about leaving him and finding someone who treats you with more respect and values spending time with you.
I hope that you can sort things out
xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 If you love him , you will have to accept his ways.
If you cannot take it,either he changes or you leave.
Those are your choices.
If you cannot stand the hurt, there is no point staying.
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