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writes: My boyfriend of 3 years proposed to me. I told him no because i'm not ready to get married. I do feel a bit guilty cause he was a little upset. We've been fighting about dumb stuff (like who forget take out the trash.) What should I do? The guilt is killing me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008):
you take the trash out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): I think you did the right thing. Both of you should feel like getting married. If you don't its a life time full of misery for both of you guys. Regarding you fighting about dumb stuff, me and my husband fight about toilet seats, who gets more computer time etc.etc. Every couple does. It's not a major thing. At the end of the day the love still stands. Please do not get upset by these silly fights. Love is more than that. If a couple don't have any differences at all they are playing out a charade!.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 If you feel you aren't ready, then you have done the right thing by refusing him. A bit of guilt now will probably save you a lot of heartache later on.
And remember that just because you've turned him down this time doesn't mean you've turned him down for good or that you don't love him. It could just be that the timing is off. For now, try working out the kinks in the relationship, and see where it goes.
Good luck. =)
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 don't feel guilty. Its okay to say no if you have doubts.
Better to make yourself happy then be miserable making him happy.
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