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writes: my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years. we have a 4 yr old daughter together. I have an older son. over the last 2 months he has had a 1 night stand and started seeing his ex girlfriend. his ex has 3 kids and one of them and my son are or were really good friends until all this happened. he has told me there is a possibilty that she is carrying his child. She is married. i moved out and started seeing someone else before he told me his feelings or about the pregnancy. i told my boyfriend about it and he finally told me he had played both me and her and he was sorry and that he wanted me back. I quit my job and gave up my apartment to work this out.I need help in learning how to trust and believe what he says. How do i know he is not still playing both of us. and how do i explain to my son what he cant play with her son?
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reader, ksylyn +, writes (26 November 2006):
ksylyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSince I have given up my home and job I am having trouble finding a job. part of me doesnt want to be with him anymore how do i move on. i am sick of being treated like crap.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 No they cannot be friends... to bad for him if he wants to be with you and wants you to stick around then he cant befriend someone who he cheated on you with. Put your foot down! I'm sorry to say this but he is totally going to do it again. It seems he's not even that sorry about it. Someone who was truly sorry would not still hang out with the person he slept with! Just because you have a kid doesn't mean its worth working out. I'm a product of divorce and personally my life was much fuller and happoer then my older sister's who had to watch my parents yell and argue everyday for 5 years when they tried to keep it together. Sometimes leaving is the best option especially while your kid is still young, let this idiot be her problem now and find a better guy! Because most likely he will do it to her too.. I bet you if you leave him in a few years he'll want to sleep with you while he's still with her... thats just the way this guys rolls. It's detestable, get out of there!
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reader, ksylyn +, writes (19 November 2006):
ksylyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk he is still talking to her and not telling me about it. I asked him to be open and honest with me but he isnt. I asked him about it and he said he still wants to be friends with her that they have been friends for 15 yrs.he says they talk about me and she gives him advice on how he can make things better with me and tht he doents want to be with her sexually. he says he doesnt want her because he isnt attracted to her and that he cant afford her. How can i deal with the fact that they are still friends and communicating a lot?
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reader, ksylyn +, writes (16 November 2006):
ksylyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we all live in the same town and our sons are good friends. I moved back home to try and work through this but I dont know if this is what he really wants now. I feel like he is changing his mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): Do you all live quite close together? What a mess! Can you not move to another area, leave him behind and just start afresh? I wouldn't have him back for all the tea in China, sorry!!! He's cheated on you, his ex is pregnant!! Why are you hanging around, ok you have a daughter but wow how much do you have to put up with. Just get away from this PIG!
take care
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