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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of over 2 years has a major problem with my casual smoking habits. He gets mad at me when I smoke cigarettes. I know it is extremely bad for my health but I rarely smoke and I like to have a few while I'm out with friends and drinking beer. And no, this is not going turn into a pack a day habit. I have been able to have a few here and there since college, so basically the past 10 years. I do not smoke at home, work, the car, etc. It really is only every once in a while. For example, Say I go to the bar with friends on a Saturday night. I will buy a pack of cigarettes and then when the night is over, I just throw away whatever is left in the pack because I will not be having another one for possibly a couple more weeks. Recently my boyfriend and I went to a concert and we were tailgating with friends and having drinks. I had a few cigarettes throughout the day. Near the end of the night he picked up my pack of cigarettes, crumpled them up and threw them in the trash. He did this in front of my friends and I was embarrassed about it. I really really hate to be told what to do. He has since apologized for how he reacted and I know he would handle himself differently if he could have a do-over, but it is still bothering me that he was being so controlling. Should I just stop smoking because it bothers him so much, or is he over-reacting? It was very out of character for him. I know that I will not be smoking my whole life (I’ll quit when I am ready to start a family) I just don’t want him to ‘make’ me quit. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 July 2008):
Well, I can kind of see his point...
When you are out drinking then you like to have a smoke. When he is out drinking then perhaps he wants to snog your face off, but can't because you A) stink and B) taste of cancer.
If you have to smoke when you are out then how about you try to do one or two things to make it nicer for him:
1: kiss him lots before you start
2: eat an extra strong mint after every one
3: shower as soon as you get home so your hair doesn't stink all night and is not so horrible to wake up next to
4: switch to menthols
5: stand down wind of him so it doesn't get in his face
Either that or just tell him he can fart when ever he is at home on the sofa with you. That way it will be fair.
Good Luck!! xx
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