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writes:My boyfriend of 5 years has been calling chat lines.I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have lived together for 4. A few years ago we broke up as he felt he needed to try other women and just be free from relationships. I found out a few weeks later after looking through his cell phone records that he had been calling chat lines for months and also went and had a "Happy Ending" Massage. He would call me and then call the chat line right after. I even found some girl's numbers hidden in his speaker box. Anyway, long story short, we ended up back together and went to 6 months of counceling and have now been doing great, however I still don't totally trust him. I recently found out that he called an expensive porn number and talked for 1/2 an hour. It was only once. Should I be worried or is this something men do once in a while out of curiosity. We have a great sex life. Thanks
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reader, jak edwards  +, writes (13 July 2008):
stay with him and if he does it more confrot him
because by your words your really love him so stay with him if your happy if not then well its your calll
hope you make the right choices
we all have choices but it hiow were use them is wat really matters
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also forgot to mention that we have a 10 year age difference. He is 25 and I'm 35. He said that calling the chat lines is a way to release sexual tension without physically cheating and its a different type of release than having sex with the one you love. He also said that he wants to be with me but sometimes he still has thoughts of doing the things he stil hasn't had a chance to do like sleep with 2 women at once. ect. Hes a really caring and loving guy but this side of him worries me. I can break up and move on but it seems that most men do this especailly with the easy access in the internet now, myspace ect. Is this what relationships have come to?
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reader, kazzy35 +, writes (15 August 2007):
I know how u feel my ex used to do it and it made me feel so insecue im rid of him now for the best, i know it sounds harsh but he does not need to do this as he has u but he wants to and he obviously dosnt respect your feelings enough to stop doing it He is being very disrespectful and hurtful ditch him please before it drives you mad with insecurities ditch him x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Well he has cheated on you. So no wonder you don't trust him. He tried to tell you how he felt a couple years ago when you guys broke up and he said he wanted to meet other women. And you even found evidence that he had been chatting with other women and PAID to get jacked off while you guys were together! Of course you should be worried! And now you find out he called a porn number. This is ABSOLUTELY NOT something men in normal relationships do EVEN once in a while. This is not even something normal single men do (the paying for sex thing).
And what's even MORE not normal is the fact that most of his encounters are paying for sex type of encounters! That's weird! It sounds like he is addicted to sex. That is one of the major symptoms, paying for sex and the like. He needs help. That's not normal. Not with that frequency. I mean it's not like he was at a bachelor party. He does this REGULARLY. There is NOTHING normal about that. You CANNOT trust this man! Don't fool yourself.
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reader, RebeccaT +, writes (14 August 2007):
Hes basicly a perve tell him to stop!!
If he wasnt your bf i would say just leave him be but this is rediculous.
Is objious that he doesnt love you that much if he needs to use chat up lines as well as you!
You might not want to hear tit hunni but i think you should dump him no matter how long you have been with hi because you know that you really dont want to be with someone who is constantly on chat up lines.
As i said dump him and someday you will find the man of your dreams.
Go for it!!
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