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writes:I have just found out my bfriend of 2 years has been seeing some1 for the whole time we have been together; they got together about 3 months after we started dating. He swears that he loves me but loves her too - is that even possible? Did he ever love me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Who knows - he obviously has some feelings for you to be in a relationship for 2 years - but it would be difficult to determine what was what given the whole time you've known him he has been lying his arse off.
I don't think the issue is whether he ever loved you - or that he loves another - the issue is what do you do?
Are you still seeing him?
If so - has he stopped seeing the other woman?
What are you happy to accept/not accept?
In my opinion you will probably never truly understand why this guy did this - to you, to her, to himself - I wouldn't waste too much energy trying to figure it out - just get yourself strong and move on with your life!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Sounds to me as though he liked having his cake and eating it. He probably does have feelings for you both, but in either case there not feelings strong enough for him to decide on either of you, so he is quite happy with having the two of you.
Im sure you know you deserve better than that, and hopefully you will find someone else who has a bit more respect for you.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): It is possible to love two people at the same time. I have experienced it several times in my lifetime. There always comes a time when you have to choose. And I'm guessing this is the point your boyfriend is at. What he is going through is real.
Having said that...it doesn't excuse his lying and cheating! His life with you has been full of deceit. And you can't build a relationship on lies! I am sorry you are going through this. I know it hurts. I would end it and take the choice away from him! Don't be part of his dilemma! Make it easy for him, give him to the other woman! Move on and find someone who will be loving, honest, trustworthy, and able to communicate! When you find him, you will find true love!
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reader, andrew loves hali  +, writes (1 March 2009):
 im sure he loves you but im sure you only want him to love you and not another girl. and its possible to love two people but its not right. just tell him your uncomfortable with this. best of luck -andrew
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