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writes: I have been with my guy for 2 years and he has never gotten me to orgasm...that i know of. Is there something wrong with me? Is he doing something wrong? I feel like i'm starting to hurt his ego. Help please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Work to understand your body, and don't let squeamishness or shyness stand in your way. Do some reading and exploring.
Then, when you understand yourself, you can teach your partner.
My current lover had a lot of sexual partners before me, of all shapes and sizes (body and penis all included in that shapes and sizes thing)...and never had an orgasm with any of them because she didn't understand her own body.
It only took me with my secret and proprietary and super specialized awesome sexual techniques, 18 years, to get her to orgasm during sexual activity. God knows, I tried everything I could think of, read about, heard about, etc, etc, etc.
Oh, maybe it really wasn't me...maybe it was her...
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Honey, it's VERY normal for some women not to orgasm during sex. Vaginal orgasms (orgasms through penatration) occurs rarely is achieved more by older women. Clitoral orgasms through clit stimulation are reached easier. So, you guys might want to try positions that stimulate more nerve endings. Check out: Kama Sutra-it's full of tips on great positions based on body type etc. and their...affects :p Men are lucky, they can cum at the drop of a hat lol But, women need more stimulation...does he try oral? Fingering?...Toys? But, you know, some women I've talked to say that they don't always need to orgasm-the act feels great and brings them closer to their significant other. Orgasm is a plus for them. Masturbate-learn your body and see what feels good, what works.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 No, I've been having sex for 3 years and never had an orgasm by penetration. It happens to more women than not. You will know if y have had an orgasm. If you want to know what an orgasm feels like, buy a decent vibrator and use it against your clitoris.
You can still enjoy sex without having an orgasm, I do!
Tell your boyfriend that some women don't have them with penetration and even just rubbing the clit, its nothing to be ashamed of and he deffinstely shouldn't feel bad for it!
Good luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): get to know your own body better. I presume you can orgasm through masterbation? If not then get that right first. Then walk him through what you do, but get him to do it to you. Experiment with what turns you on. Ninety percent of an orgasm starts with feelings you feel in your brain. The biggest organ of your body is your skin. Your clitoris is acutely sensitive and must be stimulated very gently and very sensitively and not aggressively. Then there is that glorious smooth skin just behind the clitoris, touching that gently with his tongue shd seriously stimulate both of you. So all tactile and sensual touching of your skin is very important. Thrusting a penis does not do it, to get you to orgasm. Explore the clitoris, it has as many nerve endings as a penis but concentrated in a smaller package. Get in touch more with your sensuality. Make sure the room space is tidy, smells good, soft lighting, new sheets, and no interuptions. Maybe some peeled grapes or chocolate covered strawberries, to pass to him mouth to mouth, or an ice cube. No alcohol, you want your senses heightened, not dulled. Both of you have a shower together before you start, sensually soap him, and he you. Make sure the room is neither too hot nor too cold. Direct him, show appreciation when he does foreplay. I hope he has enough control to continue a fair time? No premature ejaculation problems? Concentrate on foreplay instead of his ejaculation and your climax. You may have to practice several times before your orgasm happens, but it will happen. Get him busy on some serious cunnilingus. Learn how to better lick, tease, stroke and devour his cock in your mouth, without him ejaculating, and stop it if he says he's feeling like coming. After such a break return to licking him... like the best tasting icecream cone you have ever enjoyed. Do not allow him to enter you even after 30 mins of slurping your tongue over every part of his penis. Get him to use his tongue flicking, stroking, twirling around your nipples. Get vocal, show your appreciation. Indulge in long sensual kisses, tongues entwined until you are begging him to enter you. Except pre warn him to ignore all demands to enter you until at least HM minutes of foreplay has well and truly prepared you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): I'm guessing you have never masturbated, or else you'd know what an Orgasm felt like.
Start self=pleasuring, and find out what it is that gets you off. Then find a way to do the same with your boyfriend, it's that simple.
We are not mind-readers who automatically know exactly how to sex up someone. It take time and exploration of each other. Thats the fun part.
Flynn 24
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