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writes:My boyfriend never and I mean NEVER cums when I give him a BJ. I have went over 25 minutes and he never cums. I told him I want him to cum and he does not. Is this his own self control, or am i doing something wrong. His penis remains erect very erect during this time, but he never reaches his climax. He always reaches climax with intercourse. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Madam...I think you're very lucky. Forget oral and enjoy his resilient erection. Not all men are capable of that. If I were you I'd be riding him for as long as he could keep it up.
Oral is fine for foreplay but there is nothing like vaginal orgasms. I can't imagine anyone complaining about a man who takes too long to come.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (18 March 2010):
hi
i am the same my wife can do it to me all night i its hard for me to cum but if she uses her hands as well it seems to work. one other said about having sex first that works for us too. another way is for me to use my hand and get close then let her finish me off. good luck let us know how you go
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reader, TimmD +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Two Possible Reasons: 1. Age. It does get much harder for men as they get older. 2. Technique. Don't take this as saying you are bad at it, but each man is different. It takes time and patience on both ends (male and female). You need to pay attention to his reactions and he has to tell you what feels good. Contrary to what some woman believe, guys don't just "get off" from simply stroking it. Heavy use of the hands is important as well as the mouth. Keep it extremely slippery as you are doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): I don't know about your guy but I can't come from oral sex right away. I have to be pretty aroused and not only that I can't force an orgasm. I just have to let it happen. If I am already aroused it doesn't take that much mouth action. I can't do it on my knees. I have to either be standing up or on my back. My exgirlfriend could not make me come through oral sex. What worked on her boyfriend before me just didn't work on me. She was the first woman that ever did that for me and I told her that what she was doing just wasn't doing it for me. She got her feelings hurt really bad and she told me that her ex boyfriend liked her technique. Ouch! I really didn't want to hear about her exboyfriend when my penis was in her mouth. She never gave me oral again. I never gave her oral but one time. We broke up because we couldn't communicate what we liked and we hurt each other's feelings. We weren't meant to be but don't let that happen to you. If what you are doing isn't working then talk to him and find out what he likes. If you get your feelings hurt easy then you may never know how to please your man. He may not want to hurt your feelings. You have to put your big girl pants on. You will be alright. Have fun.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 If the man is middle age, it would be harder for him to come as compared to someone in the 20's.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (18 March 2010):
 Assuming it is not your technique in itself, ... Try starting off slowly (do all ya teasing, visiting other area's, and wot not here at the start) then once you get in to it keep increasing the tempo, and do it without pausing, slowing down, etc, and he'll be lucky to last 10 minutes. If you have to take a break with your mouth keep the speed up with your hand.
If you imagine yourself getting close to orgasm and everything suddenly stopping for a second, you're back at square one right (or near enough)and have to start all over again - same deal - continous and increasing in speed and you should get him over the line.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (18 March 2010):
You can BJ him for 1 hour until your throat hurts and he still won't cum.
He will need to tell you when he is near his climax during the sexual intercourse , withdraws it and for you to perform the BJ . That would be much easier on you.
The sensation of a BJ and sexual intercourse is different. In the sexual intercourse, he is in control and he can vary the thrust whereas your BJ can not keep up with the pace .Maybe a mechanical machine doing a BJ can accomplish it.
In the porn movies, it looks that way , since it is edited but it does not happen that way in real life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2010): Maybe its not happening because hes a little shy and its putting him off "letting go". Especially if he knows you are wanting it to happen and even timing it now lol. Try blindfolding him and making little noises while you do it. He might find it more of a turn on if he knows you are enjoying it too x
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