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writes: Hi...so I have a huge problem going on right now. My boyfriend of almost a year is amazing and I'm very much in lovve with him as he is me. But he has a past with drugs and is now starting to want to get back into doing them. I tell him I don't want him doing them and he keeps saying that I'm being selfish and that he's only doing it because when he's not with me, he's unhappy and it makes him happy to do it. I don't understand why it's so hard for him to stop. It's come to the point where it's affecting our relationship and I feel like he can't make the decision between having me or smoking his weed...it hurts so much and i don't know what to do. Can anyone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all...I don't think I'm quite ready to leave him. I want to try to work it out. I was hoping maybe to get some other advice than to leave him but it's ok. It may be the only answer. I'm just not ready right now. sorry to disappoint.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Kick him to the curb. There are way too many fish in the sea. Don't even reason with him, just dump him.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Amazing. Yes he is. But not in a good way.
What you got is a guy who can't handle normal life. He says he has to do drugs because he is unhappy when he is not with you. Ah... how lovely. NOT.
How is he ever going to deal with anything? Not happy at school, blow. Not happy at work, blow. He wants to get high whenever he is not happy? Then he is going to be high a lot.
but none of this matters, because you love him so much. In a way, you are as addicted as he is. Rather then deal with real life in which love sometimes just doesn't work out, you want to life in this fantasy world where this guy is "amazing" despite you not mentioning a single amazing thing about him.
My advice, which you are not going to take, is to dump him hard and fast, before he drags you down with him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 January 2010):
Get rid of him. You're not being selfish at all. You're right. You shouldn't have to go out with a druggie, and he's just using emotional blackmail to make you say yes. Well don't give in. If he's saying that, he's not good enough for you. And if he's doing drugs, he's not good enough. You're going to be hurt, but to be honest, I would hope you can see you are worth more and can do better than a guy who chooses to smoke grass over being with you. Dump him and find a better guy.
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