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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i go to hotet rooms to spend time alone. Neither he nor I are working right now. I am a college student and he so is he. We both hate having to ask our parents for money for anything. But my dad gives me everything so he expects me to get money every week to go to a hotel room. I hate asking my dad for money because he pays my tuition and thats very expensive. My boyfriend does not understand how i feel. Right now he is mad at ME because my father has not given me any money yet. I cant even get my hair done or buy myself anything because every dime i get is used to go to hotel rooms with him or to pay train fare to go see him. I find this to be really unfair and when he is angry he treats me like crap. I hate it went that happens so i try my best to keep him happy. I cant even buy food when im in school becaause I need the money to go see him. I guess it was my mistake to make him a priority. Yet I cant talk to him. If i tell him how i feel he would just assume that i no longer want to see him or be intimate with him which isnt the case. I feel like i can never defend my self in before him because he always assumes that I am trying to break up with him and tells to stop talking to him.I love him deaply but this has to stop. What do I do always feels powerless in out relationship. He would never ask his family for a dime so we can spend time together why should I? The point is. Im tired of paying i need money too but he does not understand that the reason why I cant go to his house is because his mom doesnt like me. She thinks im trying to steal away her precious baby boy, He is 20 years old for god sakes!! He cant come to my house because my house is small and i have zero privacy there. I dont even have my own bedroom. To anyone who reads this, Thanks for your help this has been bothering me for months. I havent been able to talk to anyone about it because I am ashamed to be in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2018): I have the same problem I feel like he is stingy with with me only and I don't know why he don't ask me I just do things for him but I have to ask him to do things for me bullshit I'm really tired of bullshit its time to cut them strings
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): I feel sooo sorry for you!
Your boyfriend is a selfish user!
What kind of a man is he?
You should dump him and find a rich college boy to look after you and take you out for a change! Or at least date an adult - that would be someone who doesn't have a tantrum when he doesn't get his own way!
Also BOTH of you should stop relying on your parents for money and get part time jobs! That way you can spend without feeling gulity!
I nearly dropped out of school because of all the time and effort I spent on a selfish, immature boy. Luckily I pulled my socks up, got rid of him and got on with my work. Now I am successful and he still lives at home with his parents!
Lastly concentrate on your studies - your dad doesn't fork out all that money for you to waste your TIME and money on a boy when you have studing to be getting on with!
I think you should rememeber that and if he can't grow up you should! There will always be other boys!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 April 2010):
 ...he talks about sleeping with other people while he's in a committed relationship with you?
Is he out of his mind?
Your so-called boyfriend is a self centered jerk. No man who sincerely loved you would ever try to manipulate you that way. A man would either find a way to get some money himself, find a friend's place to borrow, or suck it up. Your boyfriend has done none of those things and guilt trips you instead. No wonder his mom calls him her precious baby boy, because that's what he is, a boy.
I suggest that you leave him and find a man who doesn't get mad over things that you have no control over, who treats you well, and doesn't make you feel bad for not doing things his way all the time. Yes, you love him...but you can love someone else, you know what I mean?
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI love him and the thing is that he hints at sleeping with other people if I don't get the money
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Oh dear he sounds like a bit of a plonker! I wouldn't be worrying about keeping this relationship if I were you. If he's like that now about money imagine what he'll be like if you got married. I've wave goodbye to him if I were you because he's not treating you in the manner you should be treated!!! You deserve better.
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