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writes:Long story short, my boyfriend was suppose to call me this morning, I was going to hang out at his house while he was at work, he never called, I called him at 2:00 no answer, he texted me at 4 said he had a long day at work, rain check, call you later, the problem is he didn't go to work, he watched net flix all day, I know because we share an account and I saw his, not nice I know, don't care he didn't go to work or want to hang out but LYING, I won't tell him because he will twist it and I will be the jerk, so mad
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2017): Nothing wrong w wanting an alone day in front of the tv. But lying about it is another. Small lies lead to big ones and undermine trust. Maybe he's embarrassed to admit it. However if he really does twist it around and make you the jerk, RUN HONEY RUN. It's a classic sign of an emotional abuser who can't take responsibility for his own actions. Don't confront him. Just leave.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 January 2017):
 could he have gone to work and watched netflix at work on his phone or computer? (yeah I've done that)
just say to him.. "hey I saw you watched blah blah blah on netflix while at work, how'd you manage that?"
yeah he will blow up and be all aggressive if he's defensive about the lies... at which point you can say 'you're awfully defensive and angry what are you upset about"
eventually you get him to admit he lied (gently) at which point you can bring up that he's no longer trustworthy.
the question is...are you going to leave him over this?
if not then what do you expect to accomplish by bringing it up?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (4 January 2017):
 It's no great feat of intellectual prowess to imagine that he lied because he felt guilty about wasting the day watching tv instead of going to work and doesn't need your disapproval on top of it.
I wouldn't mention it at all. What do you hope to gain by informing him that you caught him in a small, white lie?
Honestly, this wouldn't even be on my radar of things to think about.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (4 January 2017):
 Not sure how Netflix works so could it be that he went to work but left the tv on all day? If not, just ask for an explanation and say exactly what you posted " don't care he didn't go to work or want to hang out but LYING" so what if he thinks your a jerk. Being caught out makes him the jerk. Not a huge porky pie but lies are lies ,I'd be annoyed too.
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