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writes:right i have a question guys. If you have a boyfriend who likes to make friends with any one. Would you class this as he's fault. We been together over 2 and half years. And two times he has made friends with two different girls and they both kissed him. But he did pull away after a few seconds and said no. And walked away. Is this he's fault? Bearing in mind the guy lost hes virginity to me at 18! So he is not your normal jack the lad! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): i dont think you read my question he did not snog them! He walked away!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 April 2009):
Yes he is totally at fault.
He led them on, gave them the wrong signals, got physically close to them, leaned in and kissed them.
He could have stopped that at ANY time but he chose not to.
You KNOW when a kiss is about to happen, you KNOW when that lean in moment is about to happen.
I do not believe that these girls pounced on him from above and molested him.
It sounds to me like he has not had much luck with girls in the past, and now suddenly he's getting offers and cannot resist the attention and the ego boost. The thing is, that is in NO WAY an excuse though. It'd be easy for me as a married woman to go out and get some very nice attention from other men and have them kiss me. But I don't because I love my husband and I only want attention from him.
If your boyfriend wants this kind of attention then you may have to accept that he is not ready to commit to one girl when meaningless snogging is so much more fun than what you are offering.
I'm sorry hun, this must be painful to hear, and I know he'll probably say he loves you and wants to be with you, but remember that actions ALWAYS speak louder than words in relationships and he is not acting like he wants to be with only you.
Good Luck!! xx
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