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writes:Been daing this new guy for about 2 months. The other night we got pretty drunk and he made out with his guy friend. Said it was his "first male kiss", and I believe him. (He wont let me play with his anus when we're fooling around - FYI)We get along famously, and the sex is earth shattering - the best we've both ever had.I am mostly OK with this kiss, because I am bi-curious myself. But I'd be totally OK with this if I wasn't a little concerned that he may act on this further.What to do? What does it mean? Anyone have this happen to themselves or a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): I've kissed a few guy friends when I've gotten wasted. Maybe I am a bi-guy, or maybe not. The guys I kissed, or got kissed by, I'm pretty close with, we can do stupid things and be cool with each other. 2 months isn't that long, it takes a while to get to know someone. Just watch and see how it unfolds. Be the judge of your own actions. Keep an open mind, you don't want to end up a cynical closed-minded hag. Your only young once, make life worth it. If he isn't right for you then move on. Big world out there, lots of others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): dont let him drink and if he does sit in between him and his guy friend and sober
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): dont worry about it! im a bi guy myself and tbh i dont think hes either gay or bi... i kiss guys everytime i go out and half of them are str8 its nothing strange just the average night out nowadays lol my advise is dont let it get to you and just treat it as you would any other situation... on thing though... he kissed another person whilst u were going out... this would be my main concern...
neway hope this helps u and good luck
mike x
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reader, Bunny123 +, writes (2 October 2007):
Bunny123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust asked him about it and he said he wasn't into dudes and they were just messing around.
I've never known any hetero identified guys to kiss each other to just play around...
Now I am definatley worried. I really like him - but if he's into then it's something that I just can't give to him. Even if I had ahem... auxillary equipment... I doubt that would satisfy someone who is passively acting on their sexual curiosities.
At the same time - does that make me a hypocrite? I haven't done anything besides make out one time with a girl, but that inaction dosen't mean that I'm not still attracted to females and curious.
Is this projection/displacement or what?
This is getting more complicated the more I think about it. And you're right, Ponungalungb - 2 months is a drop in the bucket as far as knowing someone is concerned.
Eep!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): Sounds like your curious too! but if you want to make your relationship work, watch out for him and see if he changes. He may be BI but that dosen't mean he cheat, just like it means you wouldn't if you were.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): He may have been fooling around but it is still cheating. And if he did it infront of you that was just mean on his part. I'd move on if i were you, find someone worthy of your intrests.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): You seem very broad minded, so I wouldnt get too fussed over it.
He is definitely bi-sexual (at least ) as I'm sorry to say that no guy straight guy would ever kiss another guy just to fool around - it never happens.
But it doesnt seem to concern you and as long as you are both committed to the relationship whats the problem?
Just because someone is interested in a person of the same sex why do we always assume that that person is therefore willing to cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): well its hard for me to speak for other people. Im a bi guy. Iv fooled around just a little with guys not anel just oral and a few other things. mmm... but iv been with girls to of course. When it comes down to it i need the girl. I like them more. Iv been in a relationship with a girl for 10 months now. And am so happy. would never cheat on her with guy or girl. i have known guys who have kissed other guys but claim there str8 and it was a once or 2 time thing!! girls started doing kinda normal for about the last 10 years. It will come a little bit more normal for guys now days to with not much meening. hope this info helps!!! (-:
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reader, Bunny123 +, writes (2 October 2007):
Bunny123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust asked him about it and he said he wasn't into dudes and they were just messing around.
I've never known any hetero identified guys to kiss each other to just play around...
Now I am definatley worried. I really like him - but if he's into then it's something that I just can't give to him. Even if I had ahem... auxillary equipment... I doubt that would satisfy someone who is passively acting on their sexual curiosities.
At the same time - does that make me a hypocrite? I haven't done anything besides make out one time with a girl, but that inaction dosen't mean that I'm not still attracted to females and curious.
Is this projection/displacement or what?
This is getting more complicated the more I think about it. And you're right, Ponungalungb - 2 months is a drop in the bucket as far as knowing someone is concerned.
Eep!
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (1 October 2007):
 I've been about as drunk as you can be without passing out and I've never kissed another guy, nor had the desire to. It sounds like he could be "curious-bi" or just "bi". It's hard to predict where this will lead. You'll have to wait and see. 2 months isn't very long for really knowing someone. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): From my experience he is definately bi curious....I have known young guys this age to experiment with men having sex, most of them are drug users as well, which may or may not go hand in hand with the alchohol abuse....they have to be pretty out of it to go through with it. Someone of my generation thinks this is pretty sad, as they seem to have some repurcussions dealing with not being gay after their experiment is done.
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