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writes:Please help. My boyfriend of over 2 yrs just decided to end the relationship tonight. We have been back and forth over the last few months so it wasn't a huge surprise but I am hurting so bad. I feel like I could come out of my skin. Please, does anyone have any advice on how to get thru the next few days without losing my mind?? I am a single mom and do not have any real close relationships outside of my children. Desperate Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2014): thank you both for responding. it helps knowing that others care right now! i see what you mean about eating - really cant keep food down at this point but will keep trying. thank you again
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2014): I'm so sorry, (((hugs))) to you. Go out and get some chocolate, wine and ice cream, that will help you a little bit as you weather this very painful time. Hold your children close and let them give you comfort too. If you don't have a pet consider adopting one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): It's like a death and that's how your feel for weeks, you want want to eat or do anything and all that's normal...give yourself time to be whole again...most people have had there hearts broken but come out the other side.
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reader, Lolo16602 +, writes (6 August 2014):
Lolo16602 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your advice - I am so emotional right now that it made me start crying all over again. just to know that someone else out there survived a break up - I know that sounds lame to say but its how I am feeling right now. thank you again for taking the time to send me kind words!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): Honey I am very sorry this has happened to you and I understand 100% as the same thing has happened to me and I also only had my son as company. The first thing is to remember that it is not all your fault and to try not to dwell on this. Yes the next few days will be hell on earh but eventually the fog will clear and there will be somethings in your mind that you remember that you are glad not to have to deal with anymore. Over the next few days let the dust settle and do exactly what you need to do to get through them. Watch your favourite tv shows, eat the food you like, buy clothes so anything just to spoil you. Whatever you do please resist the temptation to ring him and beg him to take you back. Do not demean yourself and do not contact him in any way. Also do not stalk him or turn up at places he goes to or anything like that. After a week you will feel a lot calmer and be able to think rationally about the relationship and what want wrong and why and if you can learn anything from it.Personally i thought I was going to die from a broken heart and it has taken me quite some time but I am ok now and barely think about it. I submerged myself in my son, pets and my work and it seemed to help. You will get through this and you need to stay strong for your children who will not really understand what you are going through but you need to maintain the routine for them.
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