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writes: I have a boyfriend at my university. At first he always took care and called me but now he's overlooking me. He doesn't take care and call me. I must go for him on the telephone. In fact, I don't know if he loves me or not. Should I break up with him or continue to be patient?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2005): First off...do not jump to any conclusions. Be patient, you need to communicate your feelings to him and have a talk. You may be surprised to find that he did not realize what it was doing to you. Going to school and studying is very time-consuming for many people...so just come out and ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2005): I think you should talk to him and find out why he has been so distant to you lately. Understand what he tells you and if you feel he's lying, break up with him but just let him know that if he is too busy to tell you so you don't have to worry about him. Good luck!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 July 2005):
 I wouldn't suggest you break it off too quickly. There could be a lot of reasons why he's not as attentive. Don't forget that you're both at uni! Maybe the problem is just that his studies are piling up and he needs to spend more time at labs and with tutors.
Give him a chance to explain what's happened to him lately. Say to him that you've been saddened by the fact that he hardly ever calls you any more. Ask him if there's something wrong, or if he's unhappy. Listen to what he says in reply, then decide what's best for you.
Maybe when you know all the circumstances, you'll choose to be patient for a while longer, or maybe you'll decide that enough is enough, and it's time to break up. Either way, at least you'll know what the reason was for his inattention.
Hope that this helps.
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