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writes:My boyfriend is starting to get a little rough during sex and when I tell him he's being too rough, he seems to get upset and offended... any advice?My boyfriend is the biggest sweetheart in the world and we've been together for going on 4 years now. I'm 21 and he's 33 years old. Our sex life has been getting much more intense lately (within the last year...) and he's been wanting to be much more active daily, maybe 5 or 6 times a day. Don't get me wrong, I love sex, and who doesn't?. He has been getting pretty rough sometimes and since we're doing it so often, I'm getting pretty sore (sorry to be so blunt...). When I ask him to slow down or if we can take it a little slower, he gets a little upset (he'd never start screaming, but it's like I kind of hurt his feelings or something?!).I don't think it should be like this... but he's very understanding and doesn't yell, but I still feel like I'm hurting his feelings. Any advice for talking with him?!
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reader, Jack234 +, writes (15 September 2007):
Jack234 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help. I had a talk with him and he understood, as he said, and it turns out he thought that I liked it rougher and more often, he said he was getting worn out and he couldn't keep up with me(haha...). We've cut back a little, but have been trying different things instead... (more oral, etc.) Thanks for your help!!! (especially you duskyrowe!) Thanks sweetie!@
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): i'm surprised you havent had a rectal prolapse, he's getting rougher because your anus is getting wider continously. how about he takes it for a change, then you'll see some empathy from him. the hurt feelings crap is just emotional manipulation designed to get him what he wants like a child looking sad for sweeties. your in your early twenties watch out or colostomy could be coming your way. Anyway is this limited acctivity all that could be fun, i mean have some imagination. very few women would be happy taking it five to six times a day-its ridiculously unreasonable and probably damaging in the long term
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 OH my God sorry your name is Jack lol I meant the name of which you call your boyfriend. Sorry hun x.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (11 August 2007):
SIX TIMES A DAY NO WONDER YOUR'E SORE !!!
When you guys get a quiet moment together, sit him down and have 121 discussion with him,explain to him you love sex as much as he does,but could he be a little more gentle with you as you find it extremely uncomfortable. Point out its not the amount of times you guys have sex, but the quality of sex is more important.
Say "Jack (or what ever his name is) I would never hurt you for the world,but I would love the intimate moments we have together to be as comfortable and enjoyable experience as possible for BOTH of us". Reassure that you love him is important too, I'm sure he will understand.
Good luck Honey and let me know how it goes. Ok?
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