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female
age
36-40,
*azed & Confused
writes:Why is it that whenever I go hang out with people, they always seem like they're having a blast with me and call me to hang out again, then if I say no the first time, they never call me back? How can I let people know that I want to hang out and party with them, without looking needy and lonely???? I feel I may come off that way, but I don't know how to ask to hang out and not look desperate... Maybe I'm not fun to be around, but then why do people always tell me what an awesome personality I have and how much fun they have when I'm around??? I'm so confused... Maybe it's hard to break into their already formed clicks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): It takes 2 to tango. If you really want to go out with these people, you can't always rely on them to make the first move. Calling people up to hang out and party doesn't make you seem desperate and needy - did you find it desperate and needy when they called you first? I doubt it. However, if you never take the initiative yourself, it can come off as looking like you aren't interested in these friends at all, which is much worse in the long term.
Take a deep breath, then start dialing.
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