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writes:Hi aunts and uncles, I have a very sweet and caring bf of 2 months. We've both had bad past relationships and after going through so much, we decided to be together. Everything's been great until recently. He's constantly insecure because many guys find me pretty and he's afraid that I would leave him for a better guy one day. Somehow, I just can't get the message across to him that he's the only guy I love and have eyes for. And whenever h's sad he would not share his problems with me. I feel so lost and helpless. What should I do? If this goes on there wouldn't be any trust in this relationship.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 This is hard for you I've been in your shoes it's tiring and draining to have to constantly reassure someone of your love. What starts off as sweet and vulnerable soon becomes demanding and monsterish.
You will probably have to be blunt with him and tell him how it makes you feel that he doesn't trust you. You might try pointing out to him that if he keeps up in this manner the relationship will probably fizzle. It's hard to keep loving someone who puts that kind of pressure on you. He needs to examine why he feels like this so he can start working on it.
All the best doll I hope it all works out.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 He needs to learn to trust you or he's just going to push you away. Just because guys are finding you attractive shouldn't mean anything to him. He's the one with you, not them. Talk to him about it again and if he doesn't start to change, you might want to reconsider being with someone who can't trust you.
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