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writes:My boyfriend has been soo possessive and over protective of me,that's just his nature..his mom told when I met his family over christmas that he is very possessive of the people he loves!I'm trying to understand his behavior but I fail..He hates if another guy spends time with me who is just a friend,when I get stared at by other men at s club and recently a friend(a guy)met with an accident and his parents live in toronto and his best friends would take 2 days to reach him,so I as his good friend decided to stay in the hospital with him for 48 hours,and one of the times when my boyfriend came in he saw this guy was holding my hand and he hugged me(not out of love more comfort cuz he was undergoing an operation and was scared I was the only one there for him)this became such an issue with my boyfriend he was soo furious he left the room! I don't want to leave my boyfriend I want to get him the help required,but his mom told me when therapy is suggested he gets agitated,how do I handle him? Ps:I have just mentioned the things that bothers me,he has thousand other things I love abt him,he's wonderful just these things that make it difficult..how would u tackle this?
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts +, writes (11 March 2013):
 I would sit him down and talk to him. Then sit him down with a therapist and talk to him.
Thing is, this behaviour is basically telling you he has ZERO trust in you. He thinks if you spend one minute with a guy, you'll be shagging him the next minute. You should ask him if he trusts you or not. You should ask him if he respects your judgement or not.
If he's overprotective because he cares for your safety, then there's no reason for him to get angry when you're spending time with a close male friend who obviously won't hurt you.
But it just sounds like he thinks you'll run off with the guy... if there's no trust, then you'll have a suspicious boyfriend on your back all the time and that's poison to a relationship.
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