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writes:Please help... i really don't know what to do...I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and a half now, and so far, we've never had any major problem. But there's one problem i can't solve. I have a best friend (a guy, by the way)and my bf is sooo jealous of him!!When i started going out with my bf, i told him about my best friend and he immediately hated him, even though they never met.I didn't want my bf to be unconfortable, so i only talked to my best friend via skype, e-mail, texting, and not as often as before i started dating.My best friend really respcts me and my relationship, and i tell my bf absolutely everything. But whenever i get an e-mail or a message from my best friend, my bf freaks out!Normally, he would get over it in one day or two, but time is different. We're going to travel together in a couple ou weeks, i worked so hard this year to make this trip happen. Now that i bought the tickets and booked the hotel, he's saying he doesn't want to go anymore because of the last e-mail i got from my best friend (reviwing a book he just finished reading!).i don't know what to do.... i really love my bf but my best friend is important to me as well.And i really want to travel with my bf... what should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): Smetimes telling and sharing everything to your bf also doesnt helps out... Ive beeen telling each n evrything to my bf but it has not helped to improve our relationships but made it more worser, believe me b4 i wasnt telling him each n evry thing , only the important stufff, but when time passed by and we became so closer, we used to share each n every single thing, n he started being more agrressive, stubborn, irritated and use to be silent from me for couple of days. I even use to ask him that "what is my mistake" and he use to reply that he doesnt like any friends around me esp. guys and girls who always talk about guys. I use to get crazy understanding him but still I didnt find any solution to it and still we are together since 1 year... The best thing is to always keep certain limits and boundaries and be straight fwd to ur bf and tell him ur concerns and priorities. If he loves u, he would understand otherwise, d relationship wont work dat longer..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): i say u should do a romantic night with ur boyfriend and show him how much u love him. mayb then he wont b so insecure
if u feel tat he is the only one
tell him tat everyday
make sure u dont flirt with ur best friend
cuz sometimes its accidental
and u mite not see it but ur bf probably does
juz keep letting ur bf know wat u n ur friend talk bout
if u r open to ur boyfriend bout wat u and ur friend do then
he shouldnt b as worry
if u werent telling him anything
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reader, Smitty babyy +, writes (29 November 2009):
I wuld have them both sit down && chat my best friend hated my bf k found out she had a crush on him. You needa find the problem then solve it just like I did!!.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 When one of my son's married, the bride's best friend stood next to her, in the place of a bridesmaid. The brides mother was concerned about the unconventionality of it, the friend was a bit concerned about the appearance of it, but I fully supported her in her choice, old Great Granny (now just a month off 100) didnt have a problem, and my son, who had come to view the friend as one of his, was quite happy to stand at the alter with not only bride but also his best man, and his wife's best friend.
if your boyfriend cant accept your friendships, if he is so insecure sharing a book review freaks him out, you need to ask yourself if the futher you are likely to have with your boyfriend is what you want for the next 10, 15, 25 or even 50 years.
Maybe the cost of the holiday was worth spending to find out the worth of the man you are planning to travel with.
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