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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together 8 months and things have been fine expect this problem with an ex-girlfriend of his, however she was from 3 years ago and is a friend of his family.A few months ago, she started to randomly text him in the blue just saying "hey how are you?" and I was fine with it, I only asked who she was. Then, it got more and more often to the point of 3-4 times a day and when I was spending my time with him. The texts seem to get more and more... friendly if you know what I mean? They started talking about the "good old times" which got me slightly jealous.I did confront him about it, told him it was hurting me a little that he was getting so close to an ex. He said he would stop texting her but it turned out he was deleting the messages and she had ran out of credit shortly after anyways.Recently she's popped up again. I found out they text a lot in the day and at night. He doesn't text me anymore but we talk a lot when playing games on the xbox. We used to text at night and in the morning but now, nothing. In fact, he has replied to one of my texts in 4 days. Anyway I went around his to stay over Saturday and when I got there I said I just wanted this part out the way and asked to see his phone. I found the messages flirty and I asked a friend to make sure I wasn't over reacting in which she agreed they were flirty. An example would be about her going to the same college, he put "oh you can take care of me then ;) ;) im a big kid hehe" and then "you calling me a freak? :( /3!!"Either way, I was really hurt by this and put my foot down. I've never made him do anything like this before but I said look, it's her or me - you can't have both. He chose me, however he was moody with me for a couple of hours before everything was fine again. I still feel like hes texting her and deleting them again though...The distant part! Well at school he used to be really close and smiling when he saw me, giving me hugs and this was up to about 7 months into our relationship. However he suddenly stopped! I thought it was just because he want to put more attention on our friends and have a chat which I understood because I did too. However, I saw a text from his ex saying how she didn't see him today being all sad. It then came to my mind that he's being distant with me at school because she's looking over at him. (She's in the year below).Anyway like I said, he hasn't sent me a text for 4 days and yesterday he was EXTREMELY distant in school! I went to hug him and he just ignored me like he didn't even know I was there. Everytime he kissed me it was just a little peck that I could hardly feel. Then to top it all off, I got him a string doll keyring with a heart and it was two of them holding it. He decided to pull the string and destroy it then fling it around in my face like he didn't even care. I asked if he wanted a new one, a picture of us maybe and he said no, harshly.I know this is long but somebody please take the time to read this. I need to see it from another persons view. Thanksss!I would also like to add, I have no problem with his other ex who is in my school year. He had a childhood relationship with her and they are still very good friends. She is the nicest girl I have ever met. It's just this one, I feel like she has no respect for our relationship :/
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 This is definitely over the line. No you're not overreacting. It's not her who has no respect for the relationship it's him. This guy sounds, quite frankly like a jerk. Who breaks a present from his girlfriend and throws it in her face??? You should have broken it off right there. This guy doesn't sound like he cares about you even a little bit. Do yourself a favor and dump him before he can treat you badly anymore.
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reader, handgrnade  +, writes (17 May 2011):
I had a slightly similar thing with a girl, the texting eachother saying I miss u all the time stopped, she wasn't affectionate with me as often, shed check to see if anyone was watching before she kissed me at her work, in my head in knew something was wrong but my heart was blinded by being in love with her, it turned out she went out on a date with someone and slept with them, it was heartbreaking, we lived together and she moved straight out of here and in with him, what I'm trying to say is listen to your head not your heart, trust me one day you'll look back and think "what was I thinking"..it sounds like he's being pretty nasty to u lately anyhow girl...dont let him play u for a fool give him a bit of his own back and just brush him
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