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writes:my boyfriend is really bossy and overbearing, he constantly tells me what he thinks is the right way to do things, and if it is not done like this then i am wrong. i am always changing how i do things to make him happy. but he always seems to find something else that i am doing wrong. when i talk to him about it he says that hes only suggesting a better way to do things, and that it is my choice if i dont want to do it. but this is not true he wont leave it until i have done things his way. i am at the end of my tether please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Tell him you are not happy that he decides to change to his own way all the time.
The longer you put up with this situation, the harder it will be to have an equal say on whatever you do together.
Human beings are all different and naturally will have individual views on how things should be done.
However it does not mean that his way is always right or that your way is wrong, just a different option.
Your partner may have some trust issues that may be addressed.
In his mind, his way is better but he need to relinquish a bit of control if the relationship is to blossom.
If you are both committed to have a healthy relationship, perhaps attending some councelling sessions together will help improve communication and get to the bottom of the underlining problem.
Most people believe that councelling is only for marriages with serious problems but it is also a very useful tool to improve communication with self and others.
Take care
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Confront him, don't be too soft, let him know what you don't like about his behaviour, nice and clearly. If this doesn't work well , you'll have the answer for yourself. All the best xxx.
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