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*lm8706
writes:Hi,I just moved in with my boyfriend of 9 months and while I was at work one day he went through my "memory box" that i kept while i was in HS. It had somethings in it about my ex boyfriends like who i kissed, who i didnt, and so on...silly HS things. And he is really mad at me for it. Which i cant understand because he has letters and old gifts still from a girl he dated from middle school to high school. I am really starting to worry that he is looking for an excuse to break up with me, but at the same time i just moved in with him at his request. Why would he go through my things and get mad at me for something that was written over 3 years ago? any advice?
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (8 August 2007):
 I think that he got jealous. Here he is living with you and he basically things that you two belong together, not in a controlling way but me may thing that you belong to him. So when he saw stuff from other guys eventhough it was so long ago, he just got jealous and upset at the fact that you were actually writing about guys you have kissed. I dont think that he wants to break up wth you. I just think that you need to explain to him that those guys mean nothing to you and everyone in high school had little crushes and did high school stuff like that. I mean myself, I had a memory box. So anyways if he gives you any grief for that then say "I dont get upset when you have gifts and notes from other girls. It will show him that you are understanding and how he is acting is very unfair. Dont worry I think that if you hug him, hold him, and kiss him he will be okay with the fact that you have had a past and have memories that you wont forget. I mean why should you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Hi chick
I really dont think he wants to split with you. Def not. I just think he is jeleous and feeling insecure about it.You see, he has old gifts ect, but it prob means nothing, and forgets he has stuff. But to find your old things has bothered him.
you need to sit down and explain to him that they mean to you exactly what his mean to him.
And also, why dont you both chuck that stuff out ? you dont need it, its in the past, you are together now and need to look forward. And its you and him only.
Take care
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reader, Peterk5699  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Maybe you should talk to him about it in a calm way. Tell him it was only in High School and now it means nothing, you just kept it as memories of good and bad times.
Tell him what you think of him - love, like, in love etc etc and hopefully he'll understand. It's just that some guys have trouble taking it in that you want to keep some old memories.
Good Luck!! And I hope you get it sorted out.
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