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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend smokes a LOT of weed. I knew this before we started going out, but I suppose I didn't quite know the frequency of it.I don't have a problem with weed in general, I'll have a little myself occasionally if I wish to chill out. It hasn't sapped his motivation, he's not your typical 'druggy' at all. He's a very intelligent, stable guy, he works, he has a lot of goals, and he's not anti social when he's on it. It's not that I have a problem about the way he behaves while he is on it - it's more so that he will do it first thing in the morning, a couple of times during the day, and a couple of times at night. Every day.I wonder how much of my boyfriend is actually him, uninfluenced by drugs, and I wonder why he needs to constantly be in an alternate state of mind. I don't expect him to stop for me, but as someone who is fairly open minded to drugs I am absolutely perplexed as to why someone would constantly need to be like that pretty much all the time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): I have the same feeling as you. Often, I feel that "do I really want to be in this kind of relationship?". Don't get me wrong, my bf is a very gentle and caring boyfriend, but when he's late picking me up and such, I knew he's high somewhere with his buddy. I really don't know how to tell him to reduce his consumption. IT takes away most of his money, and he doesn't seem to care about it. He knew it's wrong, he wanted to quit, but I knew he'll never quit.
I'm sorry for talking too much about my own story, but maybe the possible solution would be to ask him to reduce his weed consumption or have it only once when you're with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): i completely understand you because i have been not in one but in a couple of relationships with guys who are high like 24/7 and it really got to a point that it bothered me so what i would do is talk to him he doesn't have to quit but he could at least do it less for you because that's what i did and it worked for me
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