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writes: IM 13 AND I HAVE HAD SEX BEFORE AND IT WAS A HUGE MISTAKE AND I DONT WANT TO DO IT AGAIN WELL AT LEAST NOT FOR A WHILE LIKE YEARS ANYWAYS MY BOYFRIEND IS PRESSURUNG ME AND I DONT KNOW WHAT DO Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007): if you don't want to sleep with him tell and if really likes you he will be fine with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): i love this boy very much i dont now whwt to do
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reader, JJanswers +, writes (4 December 2006):
 hey girl, i've just turned 14 and one of my best mates is in the same situation at the moment. she told me because she knows that i have bin in that situation myself...and it isnt nice, u feel sirt of attached to him but scared not only of what will happen if you keep quiet...but of loosing him or what he will do if u 'dump' him or bruse his ego by saying no. but girl u av to realise that he's just a horney guy! U should save yourself and do it properly with someone you love. U av done it before and know now that it was a mistake. u seem like a very mature girl...even if he's not...i think u know what you have to do =) Do what YOU feel is right. Hope this helps, goodluck Xx JJ xX
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): hi if your boy friend is pressurising you into things that you don't want to then maybe he isn't right for you no boy should pressurise you into that kind of thing try talking to him tell him what you fell if he doesn't change then i would dump him. lots of boys will want to have sex with females before they are ready and its not right.You shouldnt put up with it find a new boy some one who will treat you how you want to be treated
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): most guys are "always" going to want to have sex, its just the way it is... But you don't want a boyfriend that is going to push it on you, physically or mentally... The good boyfriend's are the one's that know its worth waiting for, and the one's that are going to let you take your time... and actually care that you may not be ready..
I dated the same boy all through high school, and believe me he "wanted" to have sex, but he also knew I wasn't ready, and he respected that
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reader, sexylinz  +, writes (3 December 2006):
 honey. you need to be straight with your boyfriend. tell him that yes, you have done it before but it was a mistake and you are not ready to do it again. explain that you dont want to rush into that again, you want to wait till you know you are ready.
if he still pressureises you, he is not respecting you or your feelings and therefore is not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): First, stop with the caps. You don't need to shout. Second, if you don't want to do it, then don't do it. If he wants you to take cocaine, why in the world would you do it? If he wants to get a dog to have sex with you, why would yo do it? Cuz you love him? I HIGHLY DOUBT that. You can't be forced into anything if you don't want to do it.
Like Nike, instead of "Just Do It", jeebuz, "Just Don't Do It"! If he physically forces you to, then it's rape. Rape is not a good thing. In fact, it can be legally prosecuted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): You are a sensible young lady in that you have made your mistake and realised that it was a mistake, a lot of girls don't realise it until far too late. If your boyfriend loves you, he will respect your decision and if he doesn't and is constantly pestering and pressuring you for sex, then that is all he wants from you - you are a smart girl, you know what you want and don't want, so keep strong and stick to your guns until the time is right for you and you alone. If you have to lose a boy who is not worthy of giving yourself to, it's not a real loss sweetheart is it?
- an understanding woman
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