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writes:My boyfriend of a year plans to move back to his country, he is unable to get his citizenship here and is very lonely because all his family and friends are there. I am extremely upset and I don't know what to do. He tells me that he doesn't know when he will leave, in 6 months, a year or two, but I know that he will leave and we will no longer be together. How do I possibly handle all this. I know I should appreciate the time we do have, but I know it will end and I just cant handle this well. Reply to this Question
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 I find it a little strange that he says he doesn’t know when he is going to leave, that it can be from 6 months up to 2 years from now. What does he mean by this? Is it that his visa expires within 2 years and he is considering maybe leaving earlier? Would he want to stay if he would get a permanent permission? If he lives such long time somewhere he will get new friends and it is usually not hard to keep in touch through mail and chat with family and old friends.
I think you should sit him down and talk seriously to him about this. If he can’t see you two being together in the future, then maybe better leave him now. Or make plans on how you are going to make this work in the future. Where is he from? Is there any possibility you could go living with him there? You have been together for a year and that is long enough to deserve to know how he sees you in his future plans. If you are not in them, my advice is for you to end it now. Easier said than done, I know!
Wish you luck!
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