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writes:I am so confused I need help..This is the scenario I'm a mom of two boys ages 15 and 8 from a previous relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for 5yrs thru bad and the good..He already has a daughter who is 11 and he is giving me ultimatums that its a new year and that he wants to build a family with me cuz he feels he has nothing with me. I know he has been changing but I feel that I am being pressured cuz he stated that hes doing everything in the book and is not getting anything in return..He said he's so miserable and that he loves me but wants so much more. I told him that I would think about it but he had mentioned that we might just end up leaving eachother..I would luv to have another one but I think I would struggle even harder than what I am..I mean he hasnt been Mr. Perfect but he is trying..I am so confused..should I just let go and let him find another woman? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2010):
 A baby will NOT make your relationship any better. So you have yours and his children but if you love and respect each other THAT is a family right there.
I think you need to tell him that you don't feel ready for another child ( you sound like you aren't really for another one). The thing is, if you tell him that you don't want another because you are going to break up anyways, well don't you think your relationship is a little doomed?
I dont think this is something you can give ultimatums about.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2010):
Do you want a baby with him? If yes, think about it. If no, let him go. To be honest, he's sounding a bit cruel. And to be saying that he's doing everything and not getting anything in return is an insight into who he is. What will he be like if you do have a baby together? He sounds controlling enough. If you don't want another baby, then it's your call. Let's face it, you're the one who has to get pregnant, then take the brunt of the baby. Don't be blackmailed. A man who blackmails you isn't worth it.
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