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writes:i am in a committed ldr relationship since two years.my bf calls me over over and over possesive but i think i am just being possesive.Few months back one of my bf's female friend proposed him. She has mixed feelings for my bf and i really dont like her.i have met my bf's guy friends but not her.My bf with his 2 guy friends hanged out with that girl on saturday.Then at night my bf called me and he started talking about that girl.The next day that is sunday,he called that girl and asked whether she would like to come for shoppingand then they again hanged out.The only good thing was that my bf didnt went alone. He said he could have but as i dont feel comfortable so he took his other two guy friends. Then at night my bf called and after sometime again started talking about that girl.He even said that by mistake his hands touched that girls ass and he felt embarrased! i felt hurt by his talks and started crying.i said why you keep on talking about her and hanging out?He said am over and over possesive.He even feels that being committed he can go out to movie or late night dinner alone with his female friend.I said i am not comfortable, then he said ok. Moreover i never stopped him from talking with girls but only this girl,i dont feel comfortable.i shared my feelings with my bf and he was taking her side.He said no she's just my friend and she's good.Now he treats her like a sister and doesnt care how she looks at him!Tell me have i done wrong by telling my bf not to hang out much with that girl?do i sound over possesive?or is it something that any other gf would do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso should i act like i am not bothered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): It sounds like your boyfriend is triggering your insecurity on purpose. He likes the attention he gets from this girl and he likes that you care enough about him to get upset about it. So don't expect him to change any time soon.
Instead of trying to legislate who he can and can't see (it really isn't up to you and you have no way of verifying it anyway) let him know that how he behaves will affect the choices you make in the future. Don't explain it. Let him think about what that means.
Long distance relationships are impractical. Unless either one of you has a date set to relocate, there is little point in making a huge commitment to someone so far away.
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