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writes:My boyfriend and I always used to have great sex. Lately though, he has been pretty selfish. He used to hold back, so we could finish together but now he finishes really quickly and then uses his hands for me. Sex has become really boring for me now, I get almost nothing out of it. I find it hard to get turned on and sometimes I do not even feel much anyway - even when I finish. It feels like sex is just for him, and I just have to be happy with whatever I get.I have spoke to him about it because it is a recurring problem and things change for a little while, but it always just goes back to this. I just do not know what to do, I feel like I am losing interest in sex altogether. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr.jhonSmith  +, writes (10 August 2011):
its just that i think your guy have other things in mind than you?? but no this! don't give in., just w8 for the time he want's it more than he thinks.. make him realize that he's becoming a loser and your the hottest girl in town then when he's threaten he'll do anything you want like a dog... but maintain balance and don't over do it ok.. peace out!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): If you're not interested in sex then you don't have to have sex. The next time he comes on to you, tell him you don't want sex and tell him you've already told him why. It might irritate him, but it might make him more aware that what he's doing actually has an impact on you.
Since you're female, it's easier to just go along with it even if you aren't in the mood. I've had very passive sex before just to please a boyfriend. The thing is you don't have to. And once you tell him that, I think he'll be a lot more attentive to your needs.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 Have you told him you miss reaching climax together?
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (9 August 2011):
I read that you can judge how good a man thinks his relationship in how good he is in bed. Maybe there are other issues in your relationship which is stopping him from being how he used to be with you?
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