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writes:hi everyone!My BF of 3 yrs (living together for 2) has a problem with gawking at women even when i'm right there! (I mean full out gawking not even just staring!) This drives me nuts because I think it is SO disrespectful!! I have men stare at me like that when they are with their women and I say something to them right in front of their women because i can't stand when men do that when their women are right there! and now my man does that to me HELL NO!!! I have set him up in grocery stores even to see if it's just me or if he really is staring them down and YUP you guessed it he failed miserably, even ramming my foot with the shopping cart cause he's staring at some women so much!! Now im not no ugly duckling i've caused a few car accidents in my life lol and our sex life is ok!Not nearly enough for my liking at all actually, never has been but thats another story!Now flash forward to a couple of get togethers my close friends were having. 7 close girlfriends, 6 married 1 single. The single one is my best friend!She is very flirty (always has been) but nothing more than usual and nothing more than any of us are used too! The husbands included! except my boyfriend who has only been around her 3 times and stares down my friend and seems to be staying in her company more than anybody else at these functions. I have questioned him and of course he says he's not attracted to her and wasn't staring! But of course he is going to say that!! So my question is am I being ridiculous, seriously insecure or is this man just a gawker who can't help himself! Oh and I caught him on a dating site and he said " I look at them on the site just like i look at women on the street it's nothing to me no big deal" He's not looking like how I think he is looking he says!! I don't know he says I just look it's nothing"! Really??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): I thought this was all typical man behaviour until I read the bit about being on a dating site! What?! That is in no way acceptable and NOT comparable to staring at girls in the street.I mean, all men will stare at other women, whether they're in a relationship or not. Yes, it's disrespectful, and it's certainly extremely annoying, but having a girlfriend won't stop them. And to be honest, as long as it stays at just having a quick gawp it's pretty harmless.But the dating site thing? That is outrageous and so is his justification for it. Perhaps you should set up an account on one and tell him it's "just so you can look at other men". See how he reacts. He may empathise, realise how it makes you feel and delete his account. Or he may not. In which case, sorry to say, he's a complete ass of a boyfriend and not worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): Darling, you know the answer. It is exactly what you think of him. its very disrespectful. To be honest. You know what, why dont you try to do whatever his doing to you. Just fake it and see how he will react. I mean he needs to know how it feels. If he is joining dating website. Join too.if he ask why, tell him, you just want to meet new people. look around, just be casual.and if there is a cute guy. pay attention to the cute guy like he is the hottest guy in the world. and you should do this at your bf's presence.lets see how he will react. if he dont the first time you try to do it, do it more often. and if he still dont care. il'd say look for another guy who truly cares for you.Good luck.
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