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writes:Dear all,Please help. I have been seing this guy for around four months. We had a few problems early on, and I left him for around a month. I eventually got in tocuh and things resumed. he told me that he thought he would never have seen me again, and during that time apart had slept with the mother of his children ( he does not live wih her). I reacted extremley badly too this, and was more upset than I had the right to be, as we were apart at the time. We had a terrible argument, and I felt really awful. Anyway, since this episode, his behaviour has changed. He used to be very relaible, attentive, and there for me, and now in the last few weeks, he has become snappy , irritable., short tempered and unreliable. I have tried to call him, and he has not picked up the phone. he called me a couple of days back and things were ok 'ish, but the day before , he was really spiteful, and when I asked him if he was angry with me, he said he wasn;t, but it was and is obvious he is. I tried again to call him last night and his phone was switched off and this morning he is not answering ( I called from a blocked number). I don;t know what to do, and am feeling really upset. Should I try again in a few days? or wait and see what happens? It;s the not knowing that is really getting to me. he is acting completley out of charachter. Please advise. thanks / xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi all. Here,s an update. We got bk together,but i now don.t feel i trust him,and am worried he,s still sleeping with her. He says he isn,t,and has accused me of keeping tabs on him. I also found out they are married,and seperated,and from what i can gather, they are in the middle of a divorce. How can i trust him? He did not volunteer the information,i over heard him on the phone,then asked him. Am i overeacting? X
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey.thanks rescuer. He came over yesterday,but still seems distracted. His mood was better,but there is something up. I asked him,and he said he was ok. He seems vunerable,and emotional. I.m going to back right off now,as i don.t want to get hurt,and i can see that,s the way it,s going.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionrescuer. I think this guy may be unstable. Thinking over it all,you may be right. X i need to get out if that,s the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for your answer. I am into him,and have invested alot of emotion into this. He is now completley denying anything is wrong. I told him we may as well part ways if it,s going to be like this. When i confronted him about his moodiness,he just shrugged it off.he won.t tell me what,s wrong. I split with him before,as i thought he was taking advantage of me emotionally,and i sent him horrid txts,and left him. That,s when he slept with his ex. Then we got bk together,and things were ok. He even told me he loved me,but in the last three wks has become moody and erratic. He won.t end it,but still phones. One minute nice,one minute irritable. He used to fone twice a day.he seems very angry with me,but will not say why.he hasn.t even wanted to c me this week. Maybe this is his true character,or he wants to end it,but doesn.t have the strength? I said i would txt him later. I don.t want to make a fool of myself. What do i do? I tried backing off,but he calls after a few days. He,s been flaky and unrealible recently. Pls advise. I feel trapped. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi all. Please help. He finally called me last night,and this morning,and is still acting moody,and is now playing hard to get when i mentioned seeing each other. He,s saying he doesn.t know what he,s doing later,etc,and there,s a bit of sarcasm there too. So i txtd him after the call and said. I.m getting the impression u don.t want us to c each other anymore? If that,s the case,just say. If something is wrong,just say.as u r acting very moody! Take care. Anyway,he has not responded. What,s going on? If he,s no longer into me,then why call me? I.m feeling hurt and confused. Plz advise. Thanx. Nx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all spo much for bening koind enough to answer me. I'm really touched. x yes, you are right , I need to give him breathing soace. One week , but I am scared I have lost him for good. I did say sorry to him, and I thought he had accepted.. he seemd to have accepted it, but now his anger has come out again, and he has not even specifically said it;s that but the real problems started around that time. I feel that he hs lost the sprk for me somehow, and that hurts. I guess I over reacted, but I got very jealous. his behaviour now is SO out of character it is untrue. I now cannot sleep properly, and have this really string urng to contact him, but I won;t. He has seemed to swing in and out of it. One minute he;s nice and wants to do stuff for me, the next minute he snipes at me. I hate it. it hurts. I hate that he is not calling me or texting anymore. I know I have to fight it and leave it for now though. Will he ever come back? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks blonde for your answer. Well, the thing is, I actually saw him on saturday night, a few dyas back. He had just got back form a business trip, and i called him and we spent the night togther, but he was angry and short with me., Then he called me on the monday night, and was ok ish and now nothing. I don;t understand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): I may be completely wrong here, but it seems that he might have some unresolved feelings for his ex, he probably feels torn between you both, i think that he feels bad for hurting you but as he didn't think he was gonna see you again he went back to what he knows and now his feelings are probably all over the place. Give him a little space, dont ring or text him let him come to you, if he is stressed then that won't be helping the matter and you giving him space will do him and you the world of good, He seems very confused so just bear with him, whats ment to be will be :)
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