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writes:I've recently started seeing a guy 9 years younger than me, we get along well except that he is perhaps trying to move the relationship on at a quicker pace than I want.I'm 45 and he is 36. He thinks it's great, is always complimentary towards me, makes me feel good, but I am embarrassed to tell people of his age for fear of what they will think.I think basically I'm at the stage where my body is changing and I'm not comfortable with it myself so I feel insecure, I just wish I could relax more.My kids think he's great, he talks about moving in and us having a future together, says I'm beautiful, sexy and on and on...and all I can think of is I'm putting on weight and he's 9 years younger than me!Am I being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): I've just turned 35 and a 26 year old guy is considering a relationship with me. But he is worried what will happen later. He says he doesn't find me old now but in 15 years I'll be 50 and he'll be 41 ... I feel I shouldn't start a relationship with someone who is thinking like this.
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reader, mary-lee  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 No, your not being stupid! you are being a human being! dont be embarrased about your body! if he doesn't like your body or you for you, than he's not worth it! being 45, you should love you and your body, and not settle for any one who doesn't! he sounds like a great guy, i'm sure he loves your body, he seems to idolise you! just go with it!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Talk to him about how you feel. Especially how you feel he's trying to move things too quickly for you.
If you two are REALLY happy together hunni then stop worrying about what others think. Their thoughts and feelings shouldn't matter. It should only be yours two and your kids thoughts that count!
I wouldn't say you are being stupid as we all have our own body hang ups. I just wouldn't let this get to the point where it is effecting your relationship with him.
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