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writes:My boyfriend has women over my house (where we live) during the day when I am at work. He doesn't work. He says he should be able to have over the house who ever he wants, that I should not dictate who he can and who he cannot see. The girls have been told by me not to come around when I am not home (I work 8-5), But they don't listen and he doesn't say anything to them because they still come over while I am at work.My boyfriend says I am just jealous, I told him that if I am should he try and make me feel more comfortable by not having them here when I am at work. He swears there is nothing going on sexually. He also says he doesn't take me visiting to his women friends because I am to intimadating.(My girlfriend Says I have and strong confident personality, not to mention I am 6' tall and very pretty). I feel he is keeping me out of another part of his life.Should he have girls over when I am not home? what should I do about my jealousy?Thank you in advance for helping me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Why even go through the hassle of the camera? Even if he's not doing anything, he's disrespecting you in your home and that alone is reason to get rid of him. Furthermore, he's full of shit when he says you intimidate his female friends. I have several male friends and they always make a point of introducing me to their girlfriends. Why? So that the girlfriend knows that we are just friends and that I am not a threat to their relationship. This man is really good at manipulation; he does things that are suspect but makes you think you're the one with the problem.You describe yourself as tall, pretty, and confident, so why are you putting up with this?
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reader, stretchy +, writes (20 October 2009):
stretchy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, I am looking into a nammy cam today. I don't have alot of money, But I do have all of my ex boyfriends surveillance equipment ( he is in prison for 8 years). I just don't know how any of it works.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 October 2009):
I actually agree with Satindesire. Say nothing, get a camera and find out what is really happening. Hope it works out.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (20 October 2009):
 I totally agree with you, your boyfriends behavior is not acceptable, how would he feel if you had a bunch of guys round when he wasnt in? maybe you should ask him that.
He should respect you and if you made it clear your not happy having these women coming over when your not there then you have the full right, its your house!
who knows what could go missing with these strange girls there or what he gets upto?
He is entitled to his friends but its his lack of respect for your feelings is what puzzles me.
I dont think this is about jealousy or trust its more about respect.
He doesnt respect you if he behaves in such a manner without considering your feelings. He can meet his galfriends out of the home or invite them when your around to get to know them too to show they are harmless.
You have three choices either investigate fully what he gets upto when your not there without him knowing
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tell him you cannot tolerate this type of blatant disrespect and dont trust him
OR put up with the situation and never know.
Hope this helps
Good luck!
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