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writes:my boyfriend got another girl prenant when we fell out how do i cope we have 3 kids together Reply to this Question
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reader, tjlandis77  +, writes (16 January 2008):
I know what you are going threw. My boyfriend did the same thing and it hurts but do yourself a favor and dont make him choose, it will only hurt you in the end. It is going to be hard but just remember what dont kill you can only make you stronger. Show him that you are a woman about this and that you can talk to her like a woman (even though you really just want to ring her neck). If your love is strong then you should know he is here to stay. I wish you alot of luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 If you decide to stay with him, then you need to cope as best as you can .You have to come to terms that you will have to share your b/f with another woman . Finance will be a bit stretch .
If you think you cannot take it , then you will have to break up and move on with him paying some form of child maintenance.
The choice is yours...
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 January 2008):
 You can be angry with him for not taking proper precaution, but never take it out on the child that didn't ask to be here. Children need love, and deserves it just as your children do.
What are these breaks anyway. You take breaks from work, etc, but taking a break from a relationship is stating the relationship itsself is what is causing the stress, when generally it's an obligation outside the home that is causing it. That's taking a break from the wrong cause, unless it is truely the relationship, which serious changes would need to be done within in order for it to survive.
Coping will be as easy or as hard as you let it be. Your three kids won't judge. They'll be happy they have a brother or sister to hang with. How everyone's experience ends up being is between you and your boyfriend. There is no cut and dry answer to this situation other than you choose how situations affect your life.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Hmm hard one.
I guess if she's pregnant theres nothing you can do about it. All I can suggest is support your boyfriend and also I suggest yuo make him face his responabilities with both his other child and the children you have together =]
I know it may hurt but things like this can't be helped. I'm sorry I couldn't give any better advice...sorry. x
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