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writes: My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year and a half. im 18 and he is 21. for a while we seemed to be drifting apart, but lately its been normal. Yeasterday i found out that he has been looking at porn sites on my computer that i use for school. He knows that this bothers me. I confronted him but it only made things worse. What should i do?
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reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):
 I think at some point we all make the mistake of basing our lives around a member of the other sex and when it goes wrong we have to pick ourselves back up and start again however hard that maybe.
You will make a new life for yourself and eventually meet someone else that can respect you and your wishes.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, things arent going so well... im almost 95% sure that we've broken up..which really sucks because i made the mistake of basing my whole life around him.
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reader, Tiagre +, writes (23 September 2006):
If you don't like it, have told him so, but he keeps doing it, then I'm sorry hun, but it sounds like he just doesn't respect you.
If it's your computer you could try blocking the sites.
Remember, you're worth more than this, your opinion (particularly when he's using YOUR computer!) should be respected. I say ditch him and find someone you know respects you.
Take care! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2006): Hanna must be crazy...or uneducated. Porn is NOT about compromise . Why should women compromise on an issue that is about the degradation of women and their worth. By participating in porn he is clearly sending the message that he doesnt respect women(including his gf) and sees women as sexual objects. ie there needs to be no emotion attached to a person for him...he is happy to have intimate sexual experiences (even if they are with himself ) by USING a female he doesnt even know to get off. What does this tell you about his opinion of all womens true worth...a lot...that he sees us as a complitaion of body parts that are either 'porn worthy or not'..
I think its ridiculous women would even be prepared to compromise on men behaving this way. You share your body with him in an intimate way and he repays you by wanking to some other naked women.....wow it shows how much he values what you share with him, your body and soul...doesnt it???
Until women start having some sself respect and dumping guys who do this they will NEVER get the message...My advice ....dump him who wants a guy who gets off on other naked women???
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reader, Hanna  +, writes (23 September 2006):
 Most of the male population are attracted to porn sights, if he's looking on these sights maybe you should to, meet him half way, ask him what he likes. Relationships are about comprimise and communication, if you want to keep him your'll have to learn to relax with the porn subject.
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
What do you mean by it only made things worse?
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