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writes:hi i am an just 18 and my boyfriend of 3 months just got locked up for 3 months..i was pregant with his baby but i lost it due to stress my family were putting on me..i miss my boyfriend soo much..i want to move in with his family when i turn 18..how will i cope with him gone to jail?iv never been apart from him for this long Reply to this Question
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 You can write letters and talk to him on the phone.
Hopefully you will be able to also focus on things like school, work, and other things that help you move forward in life.
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reader, ShonaB  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 I am sorry to hear about the loss of your baby, I hope you have had some support with regards to that. No matter at what stage you lost your baby, you may still feel a strong desire to grieve and talk about your baby. Not only is it a loss of a baby, but of hopes and dreams also. If you have not had the chance to grieve, maybe you could write a poem, plant a tree or make some kind of album?
Your boyfriend being in jail makes this harder for you as you don't have him to turn to and hold you when you want him to. Whatever he has done to end up there, he has to serve his time and you would be wise to spend your time while he is in there on concentrating on making you feel better, maybe putting into place some aims for the future either with or without him?
If you have a future together, you will both need to start moving forward and making short term as well as longer term goals - it will make the journey feel so much easier knowing which direction you are going in.
Best of luck, stay focused on the future not the past and you will find that light you want at the end of the tunnel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): 1. he got you pregnant
2. he got himself in jail (for doing what btw?)
3. you've never been away from him for 3 months, how do you think you'd be able to live the rest of your life with him if a distance of 3 months will drive you insane? Believe me, there are worse things to "cope" with than a 3 month wait when it comes to marriage.
Back to the jail thing, Im not sure I have much respect for people who commit crimes. Neitehr do I have a lot of respect for guys who knock up their teenage girlfriend, thereby robbing her of her future, and not even being responsible enough to keep themselves out of jail. How would he be able to take care of you, let alone a child if you become pregnant again? And yes, I believe you will get pregnant again, unless you use good enough protection. And if protection doesn't work, then don't have sex until you are ready for a child. Harsh you think? Think of a child who's got a teenage mom and a dad in jail. Not fair on the kid is it?
Im sorry you lost your child, it's hard facing a miscarriage. But as far as your boyfriend goes I think you need to seriously consider if he truly is any good for you.
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