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writes: PLS I NEED HELP RIGHT NOW!!!backround: me and my bf have been going out for almost a month, and weve been really close untill last thusday or friday. all a sudden, he stops talking to me in school, stoping hanging out with me in school, ive felt like i dont even exist to him. durring english class today i gave him a letter asking him wuts up and if i did anything wrong. he emails me back and now after almost a week of this ignoring stuff he tells me this (actiualy part from email)"i do not know what is happening to methe last week i have been totally unsure of myself around youi do not feel as confident in myself or feel like i know what to say""i have had trouble getting to sleep and im not feeling any emotion right now""i am sorry for thisi jsut need some time to myself right nowim sorry i cant say i love youi cant feel anythingim not going to lead you on or liethats not who i am"whats going on!?! what should i do? this is so all a sudden......pls help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): In reply to the answer below, he's not doing what "boys" do, he's doing what lots of people do, regardless of if they are a guy or girl.
He is confused. I think his email is very interesting, because it doesn't really make much sense. He states that he doesnt feel any emotion but then he says he has trouble sleeping.
Any how I would say that is pretty much a "I'm not ready for a relationship" email. You guys are young, way too young to be going through drama for a relationship that is only 1 month old.
If he isn't ready for a relationship, let him be free. It's quite normal to have relationships that don't work out.
Dealing with rejection and pain is one of the unfortunately and sometimes very difficult things about being an adult. It's worth it though - good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): hes doing whay boys do....they get scared. accept it give him his space and time.He's figuring out what he wants and is dealing with new emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): I'm sorry you are so upset by all this. If you and your friend are still in school, you should know that this time of adolescence is a time to grow and learn. Learn who you are as a person, and where you fit in in the world and what you might want out of life.
You have only been friends for a month. I agree with the other poster who said it sounds as if he's going through some very personal stuff right now. He could be depressed. But whatever it is, you have really no choice but to take him at his word - at least he is being honest with you - and let him go. Difficult to do, but necessary...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): I hate to tell you this, but it sounds as though your boyfriend is going through something rather personal and would rather be alone for the time being. The only advice I have to give in this case is give him space and move on, as difficult as it may be.
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