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writes: well here it is a girl that i like /love is strugling to get over her x boy friends that she went out with 2 years ago. i know she reli likes me cuz she has told me this and we spent the other night at a friends and ended up getting with eachother and touching eachother in all sorts of places but any way she sez she reli likes me and has been so close to me i would reli like a relationship with this girl only she cant get over her x she still loves him deep down she has told me she dosent want to love him any more but she cant help it the x dosent like her in that way anymore what so ever but she still dose i feel at the moment because she cant get over her x nuttin more is ever going to happen with me and her but she has told me that she would love another realtion ship but has to sort things out wiv her x as she cant get over him what is the best thig she can do to get over him she sez she dosent know what to do to get over him but she reli wants to what would be the best thing to do i personally rekon a new relationshipp would slowley make the x fade away and make her forget about him and concentrate on her new love but i dont know help me plz!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, corie +, writes (2 November 2006):
I was good friends with my current boyfriend before we dated. Two years after my ex and I broke up I was still in love with him. I said I couldn't date my now boyfriend at the time until I was over my ex. He was there for me as a friend and I knew he liked me. He gave me time and made me forget all about my ex because we had fun. I fell in love with him and out of love with my ex. My best advice to you is to show her that she could love you. Just make sure if you get in a relationship with her that she wants to be with you, not just wanting a relationship.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 I think the first thing you have to do is to give her space to do this. I know that is going to be hard but you have to accept that there is not an awful lot you can do as such. If you try to force things and apply too much pressure then you will push her away.
The main thing you can do is focusing on showing her some gentle affection and making sure you have a good time when you are together; that way this process should hopefully occur naturally over time. She will realise that what she has with you is so much better than what she had with her ex and gradually, with time, the hurt caused by what happened with them and fade to be replaced by her growing affection for you. Have paitence, stay the course, be there for her always and your love should win through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): Whatever you do dont pressure her into another relationship.Keep cool, and be understanding.If she really likes you she will find something inside of her to look to you and get over him.Nothing can help her, but herself.I was in the same situation,I thought it would be best if i never seen him agen, but actually when i did speak to him again i realised that i didnt feel anything any more! Just keep cool,give it time, she will sort it out in her own head.
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